Albert Ellis Quotes Page 2
Best 90 Quotes by Albert Ellis – Page 2 of 3
“The emotionally mature individual should completely accept the fact that we live in a world of probability and chance, where there are not, nor probably ever will be, any absolute certainties, and should realize that it is not at all horrible, indeed—such a probabilistic, uncertain world.”
“The goal of all life is to have a ball.”
“The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created 'dangers' that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations.”
“There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well . And the world must be easy.”
“There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.”
“To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.”
“We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming – or damning.”
“We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.”
“Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.”
“When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.”
“Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.”
“Whining about your own, others', or the world's failings is a main element in what we usually call neurosis.”
“Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.”
“You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors.
You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting.”
“You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.”
“You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.”
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“Usually, it is fear and its close cousin, anxiety, that keep us from doing those things that would make us happy. So much of our life consists of broken promises to ourselves.”
“You mainly feel the way you think.”
“You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity.”
How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You Quotes
“Anger can be likened to an architect’s blueprint. The availability of a blueprint does not cause a building to be constructed, but it does make construction easier.”
“Anger is the only negative emotion that people all over the world usually want to keep.”
“Another major difference between anger and other emotions results in what we call the angry person’s paradox.
When we experience depression, guilt, shame, or anxiety, we usually upset ourselves about something that we think we did or some characteristic we have that we think is the cause of our disturbed emotion. As a result we try to change ourselves.
However, anger usually involves the externalizing of blame. When we become angry, we usually consider the source of our anger to be outside ourselves. We would not be angry if other people did not do the stupid things they do.
If we think the causes of anger are outside ourselves, the solution to our anger problems appears to us to be changes other people have to make. If the external cause of our anger is not going to change, we remain trapped in our rage.”
“By forcefully telling nasty people off, or performing other cathartic acts, you will supposedly stop your aggressive energy from building to harmful levels.”
“For if you damn others for their errors, how can you not also damn yourself — your entire being or personhood — for your failings?
Give some thought to that dilemma! Your hating others as persons, in other words, borders much too close on self-hatred.”
“People often want to remain angry. This represents a very important difference between anger and other troublesome emotions.”
“The next time you feel angry, try to become aware of some of the physical sensations and changes that are occurring in your body.
Remember that physical reactions accompanying your chronic anger can lead to damage, illness, and possibly premature death.”
“The relationships that are damaged are often your best.”
“Try to remember the last time you felt extremely angry. Recall what you focused upon and how you acted.
Were you able to reasonably consider good courses of action? Were you able to look at all your options? Did you make the best decision? Do you regret something you said or did?
If you are like most people, you will see that you hardly think and behave at your best when you feel enraged.”
“When your heart begins to pound, your face gets hot, your thoughts race, your blood pressure skyrockets, and adrenaline surges through your body, you will seldom act in a rational way.
Your rage may lead to a constant struggle to control your actions. Your fury itself may feel very uncomfortable and be a constant reminder that you are not dealing effectively with the world around you.”
How To Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You Quotes
“Choice gives you doubts and uncertainties. Therefore, you are always somewhat anxious.”
“Evolution is arranged so that a species survives, not so that it will be happy while it survives.”
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“Being traumatized means continuing to organize your life as if the trauma were still going on — unchanged and immutable — as every new encounter or event is contaminated by the past.”
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Albert Ellis Sources
- All quotes by Albert Ellis (90 quotes)
- How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You (10 quotes)
- How To Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You (3 quotes)
- How To Make Yourself Happy (11 quotes)
- How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything (12 quotes)
- Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (2 quotes)
- Rational Psychotherapy and Individual Psychology (1 quote)
- The Art & Science of Rational Eating (2 quotes)
- The Road to Tolerance (1 quote)
- Other quotes by Albert Ellis (48 quotes)