Albert Ellis Quotes

“A part of you will die if you continue to avoid those actions that you find 'terrible'. Stop doing the 'easy' things that you do on purpose to avoid what scares you.

Do what you are afraid to do, and it is better to try it over and over again. It won't be a panacea for all your problems, but I'm sure it will help you greatly.”

“Do not stop searching for, identifying and refuting irrational convictions over and over until you have intellectual and psychological immunity, just as you develop muscles with regular exercise.”

“Do the boring, but necessary or useful tasks first and quickly, any day!

And if your hesitation is the same, try to reward yourself with food, reading, or social relations with others, after doing what you are trying to avoid.

And if that doesn't work, punish yourself like talking to a boring person for an hour each time you put off what you have to do.”

“Hesitating and procrastinating will not make it easier for me to do a boring or difficult task. I will try to postpone the delay!”

“I will never be able to remain unmoved by harassment unless I am dead. How can I now be less affected by harassment while I'm alive?”

“If you constantly identify stressful thoughts and immediately refute them, you will not live a happy or stress-free life, but the quality of life will be better.”

“Telling yourself effective philosophical ideas is not enough, you must actually be convinced of them. As a human being, you are able to repeat it to yourself without actual conviction and at the same time be deeply convinced of its opposite.

It is also possible to utter any self-help mantras but still not be convinced even if you repeat them to yourself several times.

Why? Because people probably have strong desires and habits that sometimes disrupt logical thinking.”

“You are the main source of your stress and therefore the key to happiness is in your hand.”

“You can choose if you can stay away from them, but stop complaining that they are doing what they are not supposed to. If you have the power to stop them, use it wisely.

But if it is out of your control, do not pretend that you are in control and accept that people will often behave as they like and not as you want. It's unfortunate, but not terrible!”

“You have to show yourself – even if you don't like it at first to do what you are trying to avoid – that it is possible to live with and adapt to this discomfort.”

“You must know that your fears are part of the fears that everyone suffers from, and that others have irrational fears that paralyze them, even if they are not the same ones that hinder you.”