Why should I know Alfred Adler?

Alfred Adler was one of the most influential psychologist and a contemporary of Sigmund Freud.

Books by Alfred Adler

Quotes by Alfred Adler

“A fight with a child is always a losing fight: he can never be beaten or won to cooperation by fighting. In these struggles the weakest always carries the day. Something is demanded of him which he refuses to give; something which can never be gained by such means. An incalculable amount of tension and useless effort would be spared in this world if we realized that cooperation and love can never be won by force.”

Alfred Adler What Life Could Mean to You

“A lie would have no sense unless the truth were felt as dangerous.”

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“A private meaning is in fact no meaning at all. Meaning is only possible in communication: a word which meant something to one person only would really be meaningless. It is the same with our aims and actions; their only meaning is their meaning for others. Every human being strives for significance; but people always make mistakes if they do not see that their whole significance must consist in their contribution to the lives of others.”

Alfred Adler What Life Could Mean to You

“A woman who contributes to the life of mankind by the occupation of motherhood is taking as high a place in the division of human labor as anyone else could take. If she is interested in the lives of her children and is paving the way for them to become fellow men, if she is spreading their interests and training them to cooperate, her work is so valuable that it can never be rightly rewarded. In our own culture the work of a mother is undervalued and often regarded as a not very attractive or estimable occupation. It is paid only indirectly and a woman who makes it her main occupation is generally placed in a position of economic dependence. The success of the family, however, rests equally upon the work of the mother and the work of the father. Whether the mother keeps house or works independently, her work as a mother does not play a lower role than the work of her husband.”

Alfred Adler What Life Could Mean to You

“All failures - neurotics, psychotics, criminals, drunkards, problem children, suicides, perverts, and prostitutes - are failures because they are lacking in social interest.”

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“Courage is not an ability one either possess or lacks. Courage is the willingness to engage in a risk-taking behavior regardless of whether the consequences are unknown or possibly adverse. We are capable of courageous behavior provided we are willing to engage in it. Given that life offers few guarantees, all living requires risk-taking.”

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“Death is really a great blessing for humanity, without it there could be no real progress. People who lived for ever would not only hamper and discourage the young, but they would themselves lack sufficient stimulus to be creative.”

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“Every pampered child becomes a hated child.... There is no greater evil than the pampering of children.”

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“Everything can always be different!”

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“Exaggerated sensitiveness is an expression of the feeling of inferiority.”

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“Follow your heart but take your brain with you.”

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“It is easier to fight for one's principles than to live up to them.”

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“It is easy to believe that life is long and one's gifts are vast -- easy at the beginning, that is. But the limits of life grow more evident; it becomes clear that great work can be done rarely, if at all.”

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“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”

Alfred Adler What Life Could Mean to You

“It is the patriotic duty of every man to lie for his country.”

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“It is very obvious that we are not influenced by facts but by our interpretation of the facts.”

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“It is well known that those who do not trust themselves never trust others.”

Alfred Adler Understanding Human Nature

“Man knows much more than he understands.”

Alfred Adler Social Interest

“Mathematics is pure language - the language of science. It is unique among languages in its ability to provide precise expression for every thought or concept that can be formulated in its terms.”

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“Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.”

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“Men of genius are admired, men of wealth are envied, men of power are feared; but only men of character are trusted.”

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“My difficulties belong to me!”

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“No experience is a cause of success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences, so-called trauma - but we make out of them just what suits our purposes.”

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“No man can think, feel, will, nor even dream, without everything being defined, conditioned, limited, directed by a goal which floats before him.”

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“Nobody adopts antisocial behaviour unless they fear that they will fail if they remain on the social side of life.”

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“Our modern states are preparing for war without even knowing the future enemy.”

Alfred Adler The Collected Clinical Works of Alfred Adler

“Overcoming difficulties leads to courage, self-respect, and knowing yourself.”

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“Play is a child's work and this is not a trivial pursuit.”

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“Seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.”

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“The chief danger in life is that you may take too many precautions.”

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“The educator must believe in the potential power of his pupil, and he must employ all his art in seeking to bring his pupil to experience this power.”

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“The feeling of inferiority rules the mental life and can be clearly recognized in the sense of incompleteness and unfulfillment, and in the uninterrupted struggle both of individuals and humanity.”

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“The goal of the human soul is conquest, perfection, security, superiority.”

Alfred Adler Social Interest

“The only normal people are the ones you don't know very well.”

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“The only worthwhile achievements of man are those which are socially useful.”

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“The test of one's behavior pattern is their relationship to society, relationship to work and relationship to sex.”

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“The truth is often a terrible weapon of aggression. It is possible to lie, and even to murder, with the truth.”

Alfred Adler Problems of Neurosis

“The widespread belief that Yuppies as a class would perish from Brie-cheese poisoning turned out to be over-optimistic.”

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“There is a courage of happiness as well as a courage of sorrow.”

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“There is a law that man should love his neighbor as himself. In a few hundred years it should be as natural to mankind as breathing or the upright gait; but if he does not learn it he must perish.”

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“There is no such thing as talent. There is pressure.”

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“There is only one reason for an individual to side-step to the useless side : the fear of a defeat on the useful side.”

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“This quote begins here. A simple rule in dealing with those who are hard to get along with is to remember that this person is striving to assert his superiority; and you must deal with him from that point of view. This quote ends here.”

Alfred Adler Social Interest

“To be a human being means to possess a feeling of inferiority which constantly presses towards its own conquest. The greater the feeling of inferiority that has been experienced, the more powerful is the urge for conquest and the more violent the emotional agitation.”

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“To be human means to feel inferior.”

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“Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.”

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“Violence as a way of gaining power is being camouflaged under the guise of tradition, national honor and national security.”

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“War is not the continuation of politics with different means, it is the greatest mass-crime perpetrated on the community of man.”

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“War is organized murder and torture against our brothers.”

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“We are self-determined by the meaning we give to our experiences; and there is probably something of a mistake always involved when we take particular experiences as the basis for our future life. Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.”

Alfred Adler What Life Could Mean to You

“We learn in friendship to look with the eyes of another person, to listen with her ears, and to feel with her heart.”

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“We must interpret a bad temper as a sign of inferiority.”

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“What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning - and some of them many times over - what do you find? That you can swim? Well - life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!”

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“What is courage? Courage is the willingness to risk failure... There is only one danger I find in life, and that, indeed, is a real one. You may take too many precautions.”

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“What person, confined in a small room with nothing but a tea-cosy, will not eventually put the tea-cosy on their head?”

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“You can be cured in fourteen days if you follow this prescription. Try to think every day how you can please someone.”

Alfred Adler Said to his melancholia patients

“You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else.”

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