Brad Blanton Quotes

Who the Heck is Brad Blanton?

Brad Blanton is an author, seminar leader, and twice Independent candidate for United States House of Representatives. Blanton is known for his books 'Radical Honesty' and 'Radical Parenting'.

Born September 04, 1940

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Best 54 Quotes by Brad Blanton

“Life goes on and the truth changes; this just happens to be the way life is. What was once true is often no longer true just a little while later.”

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“Tell the truth. All the time. About everything. What's the alternative to radical honesty? Waste. Wasted time, wasted money, wasted possibilities-a wasted life.”

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“The reason for forgiving your enemies is not for their benefit but for your own benefit. Holding grudges against other people doesn’t hurt them; doesn’t even bother them much - in fact, even pleases them if they are still mad at you. It is not in your enlightened self-interest to hold grudges, regardless of whether it bothers the person you hate or not.”

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"Practicing Radical Honesty" Quotes

“All beliefs are relative. All models are just functional or dysfunctional toward certain ends.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“Defenders of belief in the institutions of religion, government, and business are the enemies of liveliness.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“Most suffering is generated by the tendency of the mind to moralize and judge, and to mistake belief for reality.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“The ultimate detachment includes detachment even from the ideal of detachment. This is the kind of thing that can make you lose your mind and come to your senses.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“The use and abuse of belief is the fundamental issue for the twenty-first century.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“They concluded that every suicide can be explained as 'an attempt to maintain or enhance the self'. The mind is maintained at the expense of the life of the being. The mind survives by being right. The mind would rather be right and die than be wrong and live.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“Truthfulness about beliefs sets you free from unconscious domination by beliefs you have come to think are reality. Then, once you are free of the illusion that beliefs are real, you can choose to be consciously dominated by beliefs you know are not real.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

“Without the nonchalance that comes from knowing the difference between our beliefs and sensate reality, we become Shiite Moslems or Baptists or fundamentalists of some kind looking for the chance to kill or die for our beliefs in an attempt to make them real. We become Serbian townspeople who don black masks and force their lifetime-neighbor Albanians out of their homes, stripping them of their legal identities and abandoning them to shelterless, cold, and unsanitary fields, or killing them without remorse.”

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Practicing Radical Honesty

"Radical Honesty" Quotes

“A mind is a terrible thing; waste it.”

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Radical Honesty

“Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly.”

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Radical Honesty

“Bullshit is a sales pitch for an interpretation of reality that comes with any interpretation of reality. All interpretations of reality are bullshit. Freedom is not being dominated by your own bullshit.”

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Radical Honesty

“Fantasies about the future, based on the past, are the hope and hype we con ourselves with. Even if we get what we always wanted it never looks like we thought it would when it arrives.”

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Radical Honesty

“First, it is of vital importance that you learn to be lost both in experience and in your mind, but not permanently, so that you get the avenue of escape each offers from the other.”

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Radical Honesty

“For my own good, I want to hang out with people who want to find out what it would be like to live in such a way as to leave no unspoken words, no unfinished business; I want to be with people who are hungry for the truth, who want to spend time learning and sharing what they have learned rather than defending their images or reputations.”

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Radical Honesty

“I am an anti-moralism moralist and I write righteously indignant diatribes against righteous indignation. I contradict myself. I have great ideas and a lot to say, but I'm not much of a writer. I don't learn to control myself and do what is required.”

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Radical Honesty

“Instead of amalgamations of parts having contradictory and uncontrollable purposes, suppose we consider ourselves to be already what we long to be: functional, integrated wholes who produce the results we choose, effortlessly, with our entire beings. Suppose we all, already, are that. All the apparent contradictions and dichotomies the fat person struggling to be thin, the sinner trying to be good, the workaholic longing for time with his family are actually smokescreens, false struggles enacted by our own minds to hide from others or ourselves our true intent. Our true intent is to do just what we do.”

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Radical Honesty

“Integrity, wholeness, at-one-ness, is the opposite of moralism. Having integrity is the opposite of being moral. If one has integrity, one doesn't need morals. People with integrity operate with rules of thumb, not morals.”

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Radical Honesty

“Intense emotional attachment to any value, any virtue, any set of 'shoulds' is a disease, a mental illness, a condition of self-murder and cultural assassination.”

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Radical Honesty

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“It may feel less secure than if everyone agrees on what is true, but the feeling of security is just that - a feeling, not the real thing. Less secure is often more reliable.”

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Radical Honesty

“It's not normal to be honest. What is normal is to be concerned foremost with having a good cover story. Normal people are concerned with figuring out the right thing to say that puts them in the best light. They want to live up to their own best guess about what the people they are talking to want to hear.”

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Radical Honesty

“Love is when you let someone be the way she is. When you let up on your judgments of someone, there is a free space in which forgiveness and love occur.”

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Radical Honesty

“Manipulation never works to get the result desired, but it always seems like it's just about to work. When you get what you said you wanted by manipulation, it is never enough.”

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Radical Honesty

“Many of us won't express anger with a loved one. We believe that if we expressed our resentment, it would destroy our relationship and our beloved would leave us.”

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Radical Honesty

“Meaninglessness is of great value. When you finally get that who you actually are is empty and meaningless, it doesn't matter to you whether you are a jerk or not. There is where your power lives.”

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Radical Honesty

“Most people, however, won't express their resentment in person to the person at whom they are angry. Instead, they gossip, complain, criticize, fantasize about telling the person off, and let it out in other indirect ways. Suppression and displacement to ideals, indignation, and judgments (against others and ourselves) usually work well enough that by the time we males reach 18 years of age and some elder asshole tells us to kill some people to defend some bullshit principle, we run right out and do it.”

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Radical Honesty

“One of these games is called, "Okay, okay, I'm guilty." This game is to make it look like you have taken responsibility for yourself when you haven't. Admitting you are guilty is a great way to avoid being responsible.”

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Radical Honesty

“Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Fuck politeness. Fuck diplomacy. Tell the truth.”

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Radical Honesty

“Telling stories about your memory of what happened may be entertaining for a while, but if that is all you can do it gets boring pretty fast.”

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Radical Honesty

“The best people in a dying culture are the outcasts considered crazy by the leaders; the ones most disillusioned with their own culture. In Yeats' phrase, the best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity.”

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Radical Honesty

“The kind of lying that is most deadly is withholding, or keeping back information from someone we think would be affected by it.”

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Radical Honesty

“The problem is that ideas about forgiveness are not forgiveness. They don't even help. What you are left with is the experience of resentment and the concept of forgiveness and a deteriorating relationship.”

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Radical Honesty

“The stress that kills or cripples most of the population comes from people being too hard on themselves when they don't live up to their own imaginings about how other people think they should behave.”

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Radical Honesty

“Therapy doesn't always work. Sometimes when it does work, it works only for a while and then the person degenerates back to living out of more bullshit - this time about how well therapy worked - and loses whatever relearning occurred.”

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Radical Honesty

“Therapy is over when a person stops incessantly demanding that other people be different from what they are, forgives his or her parents and other begrudged former intimates, reclaims the power to make life work, and takes responsibility for doing so.”

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Radical Honesty

“Thinking and deciding what to do about the person only serves to suppress the anger. Even though you think the anger is over, it will manifest itself in other ways. Your communication will be less honest and spontaneous; you may be more critical of him; you may find being
with him more physically tiring, forget appointments with him, and find yourself inexplicably angry at him more and more. After a while, your friendship may feel more superficial than before and you may not like spending as much time with him as you used to.”

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Radical Honesty

“We all lie like hell. It wears us out. It is the major source of all human stress. Lying kills people.”

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Radical Honesty

“We are against politeness as a substitute for the truth because that politeness kills. Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Fuck politeness. Fuck diplomacy. Tell the truth.”

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Radical Honesty

“We learn to act nice and deny that we are angry, and we make ourselves sick in the process of denial. This is one of the main areas in which something we can't tell the truth about ruins our lives.”

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Radical Honesty

“We would rather be sure of a correctly predicted negative outcome than face the realistic uncertainty of an unpredictable future even if it includes the possibility of great joy and success.”

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Radical Honesty

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“What is true changes, so we can't tell the truth once and be done with it. It's an ongoing game.”

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Radical Honesty

“Whatever your main struggle is, it is insignificant in the face of your death; it is petty and unimportant and has no meaning at all. It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.”

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Radical Honesty

“When incessant grieving occurs, it is usually out of the person's attempt to handle anger by crying and feeling bad and having obsessional thoughts.”

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Radical Honesty

“When the truth changes from your speaking, you know you've spoken the truth.”

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Radical Honesty

“When we learn to live in the present we are no longer chained to the past. We say to each other: “I am a being who notices. I have a particular psychological history but it doesn't have to dictate the rest of my life. I can choose how I live, rather than just react from my past the rest of my life.” If people don't like that, we say: “Fuck ‘em if they can't take a joke!'”

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Radical Honesty

“When you are lying, when you are keeping a secret, when you are withholding information or feelings in any moment, you are always doing that to protect something meaningless.”

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Radical Honesty

“When you speak descriptively about a present-tense experience, and it changes, you have spoken the truth. It's okay that it is no longer true. Don't worry about it. It is the way things are, and it is fine that they are that way. It's more fun and less boring than trying to keep track of everything. It's called freedom.”

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Radical Honesty

“Wishing is a way to remove oneself from what is going on now. Hope springs eternal. Fuck hope. Hope is how most of us avoid growing up.”

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Radical Honesty

“Yesterday's truth is today's bullshit. Even yesterday's liberating insight is today's jail of stale explanation.”

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Radical Honesty

“You can be really mad at someone and hurt by him or her and stay stuck there. Or you can tell them and express it out loud and what was true a moment ago becomes no longer true.”

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Radical Honesty

“Your anger is unreasonable and unfair. Let it stay that way. Trying to make it seem reasonable - which usually consists of trying to make the resented person wrong - is the source of all the judgments and explanations that remove you further from the person and further from your experience of the sensations that arose in your body.”

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Radical Honesty

"Radical Parenting" Quotes

“Most of us would rather kill ourselves than be, particularly if who we think we are keeps dying. Many of us do.”

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Radical Parenting