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Who on Earth is Brianna Wiest?

Brianna Wiest is an American writer, author and poet. She is best known for her work on mindfulness, spirituality, and emotional intelligence.

Her best known books are 'The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery' and '101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think '.

Born October 11, 1992

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Best 96 Quotes by Brianna Wiest

“Another person's progress is an affirmation of what's possible, not a reason to doubt your own. The people you envy are not your competition, they are your mentors.”

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“Happy people know suffering more than anyone else, and that’s how they can see just how damn beautiful their lives are. It’s because they’ve seen the depths.”

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“I think there’s a point in your healing journey where you stop trying to convince other people to do the right thing, you just observe their choices, understand their character, and decide what you’re going to allow in your life.”

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“It is not too late.
It is never too late.”

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“It is terrifying to pursue your dreams, pour your heart into your work, love with everything you’ve got, be vulnerable, risk it all, live outside the lines, find peace without having every answer.

It is far more terrifying not to.”

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“Love someone because their soul inspires you, not because you’re interested in the relief from loneliness and companionship they can provide. Anybody can do that. Not just anybody can show you to yourself.”

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“Most people prioritize being liked over being happy. Likability is very much about how you fit into someone else's projection of themselves, so being disliked is somewhat inevitable. Choose your happiness.”

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“Not everyone will like you. Not everyone will be kind to you. Not everyone will agree with you. That does not mean you have to be unkind in return.”

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“One day you will be grateful you kept going. Stay for that day.”

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“People will come and go as they are scheduled to. Let them. Holding on does not affect them, only you.”

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“The device you are holding in your hand can be a portal to unlimited information, networking opportunities, inspiration and new ideas. It can also be a distraction that fuels your comparison, judgment and self-pity. Your life will be shaped by how you use it.”

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“The key to finding happiness in this life is realizing that the only way to overcome is to transcend; to find happiness in the simple pleasures, to master the art of just being.”

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“When you romanticize the future more than the past, you move forward. But when you romanticize the present, you become free.”

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“You are the most constant thing in your own life. Befriend yourself first. Invest in yourself first. Become yourself first. The rest will come together in time.”

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“You will never regret working on yourself. You will never regret investing in your future. You will never regret trying to understand someone. You will never regret being resourceful, exercising, meditating.

Spend more time doing the things you know you won’t regret.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Quotes

“A friend once told me that the secret to finding love was not to actually look for it, but to heal the things that were preventing you from seeing and receiving it. I think the biggest one of all is, “What will having this love fix?”

What will having this person next to me make me feel better about? What do I need them to tell me? What do I need them to prove? Who do I need them to look great in front of? What purpose do they serve for my ego?”

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“Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is.”

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“An untamed mind is a minefield.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“At the end of the day, all we really want are a few close people who know us (and love us) no matter what.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“Being in love with somebody that you only used to know is like falling in love with a book (which sounds like a dumb example but people really do fall in love with them). The point is: You can love it all you want, but it’s a story that runs parallel to yours. At the end of the day it’s static. It’s memory. It’s a sentence and you can’t change it. It ends how it ends. It says what it says.”

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“Everything is hard in some way. It’s hard to be in the wrong relationship. It’s hard to be in the right one. It’s hard to be broke and miserable, it’s hard to achieve your dreams. It’s hard to be stuck in the middle, not really feeling anything at all. Everything is hard, but you choose your hard. You choose what’s worth it. You don’t choose whether or not you’ll suffer, but you do choose what you want to suffer for.”

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“Happiness is not how many things you do, but how well you do them. More is not better. Happiness is not experiencing something else; it’s continually experiencing what you already have in new and different ways.”

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“If we believe that we’re unworthy of love, we need the idea of a loving, doting partner who affirms how perfect we are to correct it. Without understanding that we want that love to fix something in us, we just think we desperately want love because we’re romantic, or because happy lives do not exist without it.

But the people who are conscious of why they desire something are able to choose wants that are not based in solving a problem, but in something more genuine and healthy.”

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“Make a list of all the imperfect people you’ve known in your life who have had love. Who have had romantic partners and best friends and jobs you could only ever dream of. Make a list of all the people who are conventionally unattractive and spiritually adrift and imperfect and all the things each one of them had despite being that way. Make it your own personal proof that you do not need to be perfect to be good enough.”

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“Nobody cries at a funeral because the world will be missing out on another pretty face. They cry because the world is missing another heart, another soul, another person. Don’t wait until it’s too late to focus on what will actually matter: creating something that lasts far beyond your body.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“Stop thinking that being sad or broken makes you unlovable or 'bad'. Your honest moments don’t destroy relationships, they bond (as long as you’re being genuine).”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“The obsessive desire for a passionate relationship is usually a reflection of a lack of love for oneself. The manic need to pursue a passionate career is rooted in an intense unhappiness with present reality. They are a series of soothing thoughts and deflection methods and escape routes: The monster everyone’s running from, of course, is themselves.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

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“The universe whispers until it screams, and happy people listen while the call is still quiet.”

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“The worst happened, and then it passed. You lost the person you thought you couldn’t live without and then you kept living. You lost your job then found another one. You began to realize that 'safety' isn’t in certainty — but in faith that you can simply keep going.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“There are two mindsets people tend to have: explorer or settler. Our society has a 'settler' mindset, our end goals are 'finalizing' (home, marriage, career, etc.) in a world that was made for evolution, in selves that do nothing but grow and expand and change. People with 'explorer' mindsets are able to actually enjoy what they have and experience it fully because they are inherently unattached.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“There is no such thing as letting go; there’s just accepting what’s already gone. There’s losing ourselves in the labyrinth of the illusion of control and finding joy in the chaos, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s not forever. It only remains as long as we hold on. As long as we fight. As long as we control. As long as we don’t accept what’s already gone.”

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“Whatever you feel you are not receiving is a direct reflection of what you are not giving. Whatever you are angered by is what you aren’t willing to see in yourself.

So where you feel you are lacking, you must give. Where there is tension, you must unpack. If you want more recognition, recognize others. If you want love, be more loving. Give exactly what you want to get.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“When you accuse someone of being wrong, you close them off to considering another perspective by heightening their defenses.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“When you regulate your daily actions, you deactivate your 'fight or flight' instincts because you’re no longer confronting the unknown.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“When you start considering things not as obligations but as opportunities, you start taking advantage of them rather than trying to avoid them.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“Work on closing the gap between who the world thinks you are and who you know you are. Your mental health will change significantly.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“You think your past defines you, and worse, you think that it is an unchangeable reality, when really, your perception of it changes as you do.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“You’re one of those people who tries to find comfort in overanalyzing old things to make more sense of them, when in reality, complexity is a product of insecurity, and insecurity a product of being unable to accept the simple reality of the situation.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“Your habits create your mood, and your mood is a filter through which you experience your life.”

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101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think

“Your impermanence is a thing you should meditate on every day: There is nothing more sobering, nor scary, nor a faster-way-to-cut-the-negative-bullshit than to remember that you do not have forever.

What defines your life, when it’s all said and done, is how much you influence other people’s lives, oftentimes just through your daily interactions and the courage with which you live your own. That’s what people remember. That’s what you will be known for when you’re no longer around to define yourself.”

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Ceremony Quotes

“Everything you've ever wanted is still waiting for you.”

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“I hope you find the courage to change your life. In the small ways, in the big ways, in every way that matters.”

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“You still contain everything you've ever wished to become.”

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The Mountain Is You Quotes

“Everything in nature is imperfect, and it is because of that imperfection that growth is possible. If everything existed in uniformity, the gravity that created the stars and planets and everything that we know would not exist.”

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“Everything you lose becomes something you are profoundly grateful for. With time, you see that it was not the path. It was what was standing in your way.”

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“Happiness is not something you can chase. It is something you have to allow. This likely will come as a surprise to many people, as the world is so adamant about everything from positive psychology to motivational Pinterest boards. But happiness is not something you can coach yourself into. Happiness is your natural state. That means you will return to it on your own if you allow the other feelings you want to experience to come up, be felt, be processed, and not resisted. The less you resist your unhappiness, the happier you will be. It is often just trying too hard to feel one certain way that sets us up for failure.”

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“If you deny and reject any kind of real challenge in your life, your brain will compensate by creating a problem to overcome. Except this time, there won’t be any reward at the end. It will just be you battling you for the rest of your life.”

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“If you try to fix the problem on the surface, you will always come up against a wall. This is because you’re trying to rip off a band-aid before you have a strategy to heal the wound.”

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“If you want to master your life, you have to learn to organize your feelings. By becoming aware of them, you can trace them back to the thought process that prompted them, and from there you can decide whether or not the idea is an actual threat or concern, or a fabrication of your reptilian mind just trying to keep you alive.”

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“In fact, crying at appropriate times is one of the biggest signs of mental strength, as people who are struggling often find it difficult to release their feelings and be vulnerable.”

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“It is very hard to show up as the person you want to be when you are surrounded by an environment that makes you feel like a person you aren’t.”

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“It’s not whether you 'feel' like putting in the work, but whether or not you do it regardless.”

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The Mountain Is You

“Just as a mountain is formed when two sections of the ground are forced against one another, your mountain will arise out of coexisting but conflicting needs. Your mountain requires you to reconcile two parts of you: the conscious and the unconscious, the part of you that is aware of what you want and the part of you that is not aware of why you are still holding yourself back.”

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“Many people say that you have to love yourself first before you can love others, but really, if you learn to love others, you will learn to love yourself.”

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“Mental strength is not just hoping that nothing ever goes wrong. It is believing that we have the capacity to handle it if it does.”

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“Much like nature, life is very often working in our favor, even when it seems like we are only being faced with adversity, discomfort, and change.”

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“Needing solitude too often usually means there is a discrepancy between who you pretend to be and who you really are. When you show up to your life more authentically, it becomes easier to have people around you as it requires less effort.”

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“Often in life, our biggest anxiety comes not from what’s actually happening, but how we think about what is happening. In that, we reclaim our emotional freedom and power.”

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“Our ability to feel the depth and beauty of life is capable of expanding forever inward if we are willing to take our problems and see them as catalysts.”

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“Problems don’t inherently make you a stronger person unless you change and adapt. The variable here is you. The common denominator is whether or not you shift your foundational perspective on the world and how you behave within it.”

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“Self-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to consciously meet our innermost needs, often because we do not believe we are capable of handling them.”

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“Self-sabotage is when you have two conflicting desires. One is conscious, one is unconscious. You know how you want to move your life forward, and yet you are still, for some reason, stuck.”

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“The greatest act of self-love is to no longer accept a life you are unhappy with.”

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“The people you spend the most time with will shape your future irrevocably, and so you must choose them wisely.”

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“The thing is that there are millions of scary things that can happen to us in our lives. That is true for everyone. When we are hung up on one scary thing over another, it’s not because it’s a more imminent or likely threat; it’s because we are less convinced we would be able to respond to it. To heal, we don’t need to avoid it. We need to develop logic to see situations for what they are and respond appropriately to them. So often in life, our biggest anxiety comes not from what’s actually happening, but how we think about what is happening. In that, we reclaim our emotional freedom and power.”

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“The way you are self-sabotaging: Mindlessly scrolling through social media as a way to pass the time. What your subconscious mind might want you to know: This is one of the easiest ways to numb yourself, because it is so accessible and addictive. There is a world-altering difference between using social media in a healthy way versus as a coping mechanism. Mostly, it has to do with how you feel after you’re finished. If you don’t put the phone down feeling inspired or relaxed, you’re probably trying to avoid some kind of discomfort within yourself – the very discomfort that just might be telling you that you need to change.”

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“To have a mountain in front of you does not mean you are fundamentally broken in some way. Everything in nature is imperfect, and it is because of that imperfection that growth is possible.”

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“To truly heal, you are going to have to change the way you think. You are going to have to become very conscious of negative and false beliefs and start shifting to a mindset that actually serves you.”

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The Mountain Is You

“We are programmed to seek what we’ve known. Even though we think we’re after happiness, we’re actually trying to find whatever we’re most used to.”

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“We have to use our minds to practice discernment. We have to use our supreme intelligence to decide where we want to go, who we want to be, and then we have to allow our bodies to adjust over time. We cannot live being governed by how we feel. Our emotions are temporary and not always reflective of reality.”

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“What happens when we start to chase what we really want: We resist doing the work that it takes to actually get it because we are so afraid of not having it, any brush with failure makes us rescind our effort and tense up. When we go so long not having what we really want, we create subconscious associations between having it and 'being bad', because we have judged others for having it. When we get it, we fear losing it so badly that we push it away from ourselves so as to not have to withstand the pain. We are so deeply enmeshed in the mental state of 'wanting', we cannot shift to a state of 'having'.”

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“What is not right for you does not remain with you because you don’t want it, and so you don’t choose it. You step away when you are ready, you let go when you are able, and you realize, all along, that all you were really in love with was a little trick of the light that made you feel safe.”

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“When you habituate yourself to do things that move your life forward, you call them skills. When they hold your life back, you call them self-sabotage.”

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“Without breaks, faults, and gaps, nothing could grow and nothing would become.”

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“You are traumatized because something scared you and you are convinced that it is still 'out to get you'. This is what happens when we don’t face or overcome something difficult — we assume the threat lingers indefinitely.”

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“You cannot ignore your problems. You cannot disregard your wounds. These are issues that you will need to unpack, process, learn from, and adapt your behavior accordingly. This won’t only make you mentally stronger; it will also give you a better quality of life overall.”

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“You must mourn the loss of your younger self, the person who has gotten you this far but who is no longer equipped to carry you onward.”

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“You realize that nothing will save you, and so you must begin the work of saving yourself, which is the entire purpose of your life.”

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“You start to let go on the day you take one step toward building a new life and then let yourself lie in bed and stare at the ceiling and cry for as many hours as you need.”

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“Your feelings aren’t predictions. They are not fortune-telling mechanisms. They are only reflecting back to you what your current state of mind is. It’s like having a nightmare: The monsters aren’t real, but they could be metaphors for something you’re worried about in your waking life.”

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“Your life is defined not only by what you think about it, but also what you think of yourself.”

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“Your mountain is the block between you and the life you want to live. Facing it is also the only path to your freedom and becoming. You are here because a trigger showed you to your wound, and your wound will show you to your path, and your path will show you to your destiny.”

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“Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It’s going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction. It’s going to cost you relationships and friends. It’s going to cost you being liked and understood. It doesn’t matter. The people who are meant for you are going to meet you on the other side. You’re going to build a new comfort zone around the things that actually move you forward. Instead of being liked, you’re going to be loved. Instead of being understood, you’re going to be seen. All you’re going to lose is what was built for a person you no longer are.”

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“Your trauma is not 'in your head'; it is literally a changed state in your brain, and the only way you will help your body to return to its actual state is by recreating the feeling of safety that allows you to 'turn off' survival mode and return to normal life.”

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The Truth About Everything Quotes

“If everything were explained, there would be nothing left to figure out.”

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The Truth About Everything

“The way to stop hate is to stop hating. Be better. Never stop seeking the extraordinary. Never fail to forget your role as a creator of your own life. You choose tomorrow, and you create what is. Make sure it’s what you want. Be happy. I love you. Find other people that love you as well. Be with them.”

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“Whenever you feel hopeless, all you need to do is go outside and realize that you have been molded into human form for some reason. You are somewhere you may never be again. Your actions, no matter how inconsequential you think they may be, have been essential.”

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When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal Quotes

“And maybe in the end, the kindest possible thing you could do for yourself is to know that there is nothing that holds us back more than the important words that went unspoken, the deep instincts that went unfelt, the callings that went unanswered.”

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“Everything that is meant for you will feel like a deep exhale, as though you are returning home to a place you forgot existed.”

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When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

“Healing is not so much a chapter in your story but changing the way you write the entire book.”

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When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

“I hope you learn how to see your evolution not as a linear ascent into perfection, but an unpacking of why you might want to perfect yourself in the first place. What feels so broken? And who taught you it was that way?”

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When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

“I hope you will not allow this life to make you bitter. I hope you will not fight for your limitations more often than you do your potential. I hope you will never stop believing that a miracle is right around the corner, because it always is. I hope you will know that the willingness to believe in what may be is often the very path that brings it all forward.”

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When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

“There is not just one version of you that exists. To some, you are the beauty standard. To others, you are easily overlooked. To some, you are a genius at your craft. To others, you are irrelevant. To some, you are an incredible friend. To others, you are a complete stranger. To some, you are a life partner. To others, you are not someone they’d even date. To some, you are a teacher. To others, you are a student. To some, you are a guide. To others, you are a beginner. To some, you are a shining light. To others, you reveal their darkness.

The reality is that you exist in so many different forms and images and projections — and yet, the only one that is ever really going to matter is the way you see yourself. Allow this knowing to free you. Allow it to help you see that maybe there is more dimension, more contrast, more nuance, and more goodness within you than you have ever allowed your-self to believe.”

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“You have to start being kind to yourself. Kind in the way that you’re kind to a child, to someone or something so innocent and endlessly deserving of your affection and praise.”

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“Your first and most crucial task is your commitment to your own becoming. It is from this garden that all else is harvested. Your first purpose is just to be here. To be weird and ordinary and exceptional. To think and feel and know and wonder. To build yourself into a person you are proud to be, even if nobody else is clapping.”

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