Brianna Wiest Quotes Page 3

“Self-sabotage is when you have two conflicting desires. One is conscious, one is unconscious. You know how you want to move your life forward, and yet you are still, for some reason, stuck.”

“The greatest act of self-love is to no longer accept a life you are unhappy with.”

“The people you spend the most time with will shape your future irrevocably, and so you must choose them wisely.”

“The thing is that there are millions of scary things that can happen to us in our lives. That is true for everyone. When we are hung up on one scary thing over another, it’s not because it’s a more imminent or likely threat; it’s because we are less convinced we would be able to respond to it.

To heal, we don’t need to avoid it. We need to develop logic to see situations for what they are and respond appropriately to them. So often in life, our biggest anxiety comes not from what’s actually happening, but how we think about what is happening. In that, we reclaim our emotional freedom and power.”

“The way you are self-sabotaging: Mindlessly scrolling through social media as a way to pass the time.

What your subconscious mind might want you to know: This is one of the easiest ways to numb yourself, because it is so accessible and addictive.

There is a world-altering difference between using social media in a healthy way versus as a coping mechanism. Mostly, it has to do with how you feel after you’re finished.

If you don’t put the phone down feeling inspired or relaxed, you’re probably trying to avoid some kind of discomfort within yourself – the very discomfort that just might be telling you that you need to change.”

“To have a mountain in front of you does not mean you are fundamentally broken in some way. Everything in nature is imperfect, and it is because of that imperfection that growth is possible.”

“To truly heal, you are going to have to change the way you think. You are going to have to become very conscious of negative and false beliefs and start shifting to a mindset that actually serves you.”

“We are programmed to seek what we’ve known. Even though we think we’re after happiness, we’re actually trying to find whatever we’re most used to.”

“We have to use our minds to practice discernment. We have to use our supreme intelligence to decide where we want to go, who we want to be, and then we have to allow our bodies to adjust over time.

We cannot live being governed by how we feel. Our emotions are temporary and not always reflective of reality.”

“What happens when we start to chase what we really want: We resist doing the work that it takes to actually get it because we are so afraid of not having it, any brush with failure makes us rescind our effort and tense up.

When we go so long not having what we really want, we create subconscious associations between having it and 'being bad', because we have judged others for having it.

When we get it, we fear losing it so badly that we push it away from ourselves so as to not have to withstand the pain. We are so deeply enmeshed in the mental state of 'wanting', we cannot shift to a state of 'having'.”

“What is not right for you does not remain with you because you don’t want it, and so you don’t choose it.

You step away when you are ready, you let go when you are able, and you realize, all along, that all you were really in love with was a little trick of the light that made you feel safe.”

“When you habituate yourself to do things that move your life forward, you call them skills. When they hold your life back, you call them self-sabotage.”

“Without breaks, faults, and gaps, nothing could grow and nothing would become.”

“You are traumatized because something scared you and you are convinced that it is still 'out to get you'. This is what happens when we don’t face or overcome something difficult — we assume the threat lingers indefinitely.”

“You cannot ignore your problems. You cannot disregard your wounds. These are issues that you will need to unpack, process, learn from, and adapt your behavior accordingly. This won’t only make you mentally stronger; it will also give you a better quality of life overall.”

“You must mourn the loss of your younger self, the person who has gotten you this far but who is no longer equipped to carry you onward.”

“You realize that nothing will save you, and so you must begin the work of saving yourself, which is the entire purpose of your life.”

“You start to let go on the day you take one step toward building a new life and then let yourself lie in bed and stare at the ceiling and cry for as many hours as you need.”

“Your feelings aren’t predictions. They are not fortune-telling mechanisms. They are only reflecting back to you what your current state of mind is.

It’s like having a nightmare: The monsters aren’t real, but they could be metaphors for something you’re worried about in your waking life.”

“Your life is defined not only by what you think about it, but also what you think of yourself.”

“Your mountain is the block between you and the life you want to live. Facing it is also the only path to your freedom and becoming.

You are here because a trigger showed you to your wound, and your wound will show you to your path, and your path will show you to your destiny.”

“Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It’s going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction. It’s going to cost you relationships and friends. It’s going to cost you being liked and understood.

It doesn’t matter. The people who are meant for you are going to meet you on the other side. You’re going to build a new comfort zone around the things that actually move you forward.

Instead of being liked, you’re going to be loved. Instead of being understood, you’re going to be seen. All you’re going to lose is what was built for a person you no longer are.”

“Your trauma is not 'in your head'; it is literally a changed state in your brain, and the only way you will help your body to return to its actual state is by recreating the feeling of safety that allows you to 'turn off' survival mode and return to normal life.”

“Decide what's worth your energy, because what you engage with is what you empower.”

“Eventually, you will have to stop pouring yourself into the things that will give nothing back, that take without any intent to give.

You will have to stop trying to make yourself fit into places you are no longer meant to be.”

“Happiness is not finding success by a certain time but finding something you love so much time itself seems to disappear.”

“Happiness is not having the best of everything, but the ability to make the best of anything.”

“I hope this year is the year you change your life.”

“If you’re in the space between where you are and where you want to be, remember the person you’re becoming is already inside you.

The journey is convincing your mind to act consistently on what your heart already wants to do.”

“One day you will realize that happiness is not what your house looks like, but how you love the people within its walls.”