Carl R. Rogers Quotes

Who on Earth is Carl R. Rogers?

Carl Ransom Rogers is referred to as the most influential psychologist to ever walk the face of the Earth. The field of expertise of Carl Rogers ranged from personal development to humanistic psychology.

Rogers is also the scientist with the coolest middle name, after Richard Buckminster Fuller of course.

Born January 08, 1902
Died February 04, 1987

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Best 80 Quotes by Carl R. Rogers

“A person cannot teach another person directly; a person can only facilitate another's learning.”

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“Am I living in a way which is deeply satisfying to me, and which truly expresses me?”

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“As no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves.”

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“Being empathetic is seeing the world through the eyes of the other, not seeing your world reflected in their eyes.”

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“Growth occurs when individuals confront problems, struggle to master them, and through that struggle develop new aspects of their skills, capacities, views about life.”

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“I don't believe that anyone has ever taught anything to anyone. I question that efficacy of teaching. The only thing that I know is that anyone who wants to learn will learn. And maybe a teacher is a facilitator, a person who puts things down and shows people how exciting and wonderful it is and asks them to eat.”

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“I feel happier just for being myself and letting others be themselves.”

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“I realize that, if I were stable, prudent, and static, I would live in death. Therefore, I accept confusion, uncertainty, fear, and emotional ups and downs. Because that is the price I am willing to pay for a fluid, perplexing, and exciting life.”

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“I'm not perfect... But I'm enough.”

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“If we value independence, if we are disturbed by the growing conformity of knowledge, of values, of attitudes, which our present system induces, then we may wish to set up conditions of learning which make for uniqueness, for self-direction, and for self-initiated learning.”

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“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”

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“It’s not about getting the feeling out of the mind, or hiding it, but about experiencing it with acceptance.”

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“Loneliness is a barrier that prevents one from uniting with the inner self.”

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“Man's inability to communicate is a result of his failure to listen effectively.”

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“Neither The Bible, nor the prophets, nor the revelations of God or of men… Nothing has priority over direct experience.”

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“People only seriously consider change when they feel accepted for exactly who they are.”

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“Powerful is our need to be known, really known by ourselves and others, even if only for a moment.”

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“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.”

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“The man who is educated is the one who learns to learn.”

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“The only person who cannot be helped is that person who blames others.”

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“The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”

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“There is another peculiar satisfaction in really hearing someone: It is like listening to the music of the spheres, because beyond the immediate message of the person, no matter what that might be, there is the universal. Hidden in all of the personal communications which I really hear, there seem to be orderly psychological laws, aspects of the same order we find in the universe as a whole. So there is both the satisfaction of hearing this person and also the satisfaction of feeling one's self in touch with what is universally true.”

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“There is direction but there is no destination.”

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“There is no beast in man; there is only man in man.”

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“True empathy is always free of any evaluative or diagnostic quality. This comes across to the recipient with some surprise. "If I am not being judged, perhaps I am not so evil or abnormal as I have thought.”

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“We in the West seem to have made a fetish out of complete individual self-sufficiency, of not needing help, of being completely private except in a very few selected relationships.”

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“What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.”

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“What you are to be, you are now becoming.”

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“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me.”

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“When I look at the world I'm pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.”

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“When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance… provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another.”

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"A Way of Being" Quotes

“I find it very satisfying when I can be real, when I can be close to whatever it is that is going on within me. I like it when I can listen to myself. To really know what I am experiencing in the moment is by no means an easy thing, but I feel somewhat encouraged because I think that over the years I have been improving at it.”

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A Way of Being

“I like to think of myself as a quiet revolutionary.”

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A Way of Being

“I regret it when I suppress my feelings too long and they burst forth in ways that are distorted or attacking or hurtful.”

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A Way of Being

“I would prefer my experiences in communication to have a growth-promoting effect, both on me and on the other, and I should like to avoid those communication experiences in which both I and the other person feel diminished.”

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A Way of Being

“It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens.”

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A Way of Being

“It is so obvious when a person is not hiding behind a facade but is speaking from deep within himself.”

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A Way of Being

“One of the most satisfying feelings I know—and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person—comes from my appreciating this individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset. People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be. In fact, perhaps the reason we can truly appreciate a sunset is that we cannot control it.”

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A Way of Being

“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner." I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”

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A Way of Being

“The intolerant 'true believer' is a menace to any field, yet I suspect each one of us finds traces of that person in ourself.”

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A Way of Being

“The paradigm of Western culture is that the essence of persons is dangerous; thus, they must be taught, guided and controlled by those with superior authority.”

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A Way of Being

“The strongest force in our universe is not overriding power, but love.”

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A Way of Being

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“We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.”

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A Way of Being

“When you are in psychological distress and someone really hears you without passing judgement on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good. When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions which seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.”

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A Way of Being

"Becoming Partners" Quotes

“Helping individuals become individuals is much more fundamental than helping them become mathematicians or translators or anyone else.”

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Becoming Partners

“If a person involved in a relationship looks at all their terrible, abnormal, disgusting, touching, sympathetic and strong sides with affection, then they are more suitable for relationships.”

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Becoming Partners

"Client-Centered Therapy" Quotes

“Behavior is basically the goal-directed attempt of the organism to satisfy its needs as experienced, in the field as perceived”

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Client-Centered Therapy

“Each man must resolve within himself issues for which his society previously took full responsibility.”

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Client-Centered Therapy

“The only way to understand another culture is to assume the frame of reference of that culture.”

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Client-Centered Therapy

“We live by a perceptual 'map' which is never reality itself.”

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Client-Centered Therapy

“You can't possibly be afraid of death, really, you can only be afraid of life.”

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Client-Centered Therapy

"On Becoming a Person" Quotes

“A person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Adjectives such as happy, contented, blissful, enjoyable, do not seem quite appropriate to any general description of this process I have called the good life, even though the person in this process would experience each one of these at the appropriate times. But adjectives which seem more generally fitting are adjectives such as enriching, exciting, rewarding, challenging, meaningful. This process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-fainthearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one's potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life. Yet the deeply exciting thing about human beings is that when the individual is inwardly free, he chooses as the good life this process of becoming.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Another way of learning for me is to state my own uncertainties, to try to clarify my puzzlements, and thus get closer to the meaning that my experience actually seems to have.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Evaluation by others is not a guide for me. The judgments of others, while they are to be listened to, and taken into account for what they are, can never be a guide for me. This has been a hard thing to learn.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person's ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming me.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Having received an education, we usually become conformists with stereotypical thinking. People with a 'complete' education, and not free, creative and original thinking people.”

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On Becoming a Person

“He is learning that the feelings which exist are good enough to live by. They do not have to be coated with a veneer.”

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On Becoming a Person

“I find that this desire to be all of oneself in each moment — all the richness and complexity, with nothing hidden from oneself, and nothing feared in oneself — this is a common desire in those who have seemed to show much movement in therapy. I do not need to say that this is a difficult, and in its absolute sense an impossible goal. Yet one of the most evident trends in clients is to move toward becoming all of the complexity of one’s changing self in each significant moment.”

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On Becoming a Person

“I have come to feel that the more fully the individual is understood and accepted, the more he tends to drop the false fronts with which he has been meeting life, and the more he tends to move in a direction which is forward.”

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On Becoming a Person

“I have come to realize that being trustworthy does not demand that I be rigidly consistent but that I be dependably real.”

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On Becoming a Person

“I have learned that my total organismic sensing of a situation is more trustworthy than my intellect.”

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On Becoming a Person

“I’ve always felt I had to do things because they were expected of me, or more important, to make people like me. The hell with it! I think from now on I’m going to just be me—rich or poor, good or bad, rational or irrational, logical or illogical, famous or infamous.”

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On Becoming a Person

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“If I let myself really understand another person, I might be changed by that understanding. And we all fear change. So as I say, it is not an easy thing to permit oneself to understand an individual.”

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On Becoming a Person

“In my relationships with persons I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act as though I were something that I am not.”

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On Becoming a Person

“It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried. It began to occur to me that unless I had a need to demonstrate my own cleverness and learning, I would do better to rely upon the client for the direction of movement in the process.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Life, at its best, is a flowing, changing process in which nothing is fixed.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“Once an experience is fully in awareness, fully accepted, then it can be coped with effectively, like any other clear reality.”

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On Becoming a Person

“Perhaps it is less important that a teacher cover the allotted amount of the curriculum, or use the most approved audio-visual devices, than that he be congruent, real, in his relation to his students.”

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On Becoming a Person

“So while I still hate to readjust my thinking, still hate to give up old ways of perceiving and conceptualizing, yet at some deeper level I have, to a considerable degree, come to realize that these painful reorganizations are what is known as learning.”

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On Becoming a Person

“The concept of 'cure' is entirely inappropriate, since in most of these disorders we are dealing with learned behavior, not with a disease.”

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On Becoming a Person

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

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On Becoming a Person

“The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.”

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On Becoming a Person

“The more I can keep a relationship free of judgment and evaluation, the more this will permit the other person to reach the point where he recognizes that the locus of evaluation, the center of responsibility, lies within himself.”

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On Becoming a Person

“The process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-fainthearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one's potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life. Yet the deeply exciting thing about human beings is that when the individual is inwardly free, he chooses as the good life this process of becoming.”

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On Becoming a Person

“The very essence of the creative is its novelty, and hence we have no standard by which to judge it.”

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On Becoming a Person

“To be responsibly self-directing means that one chooses—and then learns from the consequences. So clients find this a sobering but exciting kind of experience.”

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On Becoming a Person

“To understand another person's thoughts and feelings thoroughly, with the meanings they have for him, and to be thoroughly understood by this other person in return – this is one of the most rewarding of human experiences, and all too rare.”

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On Becoming a Person

“We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.”

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On Becoming a Person

“What is most personal is most universal.”

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On Becoming a Person