Carl R. Rogers Quotes

Who the Hell is Carl R. Rogers?

Carl Ransom Rogers is referred to as the most influential psychologist to ever walk the face of the Earth.

Rogers is also the scientist with the coolest middle name, after Richard Buckminster Fuller of course.

The field of expertise of Carl Rogers ranged from personal development to humanistic psychology.

Born January 08, 1902
Died February 04, 1987

Books by Carl R. Rogers


Best 53 Quotes by Carl R. Rogers

“A person cannot teach another person directly; a person can only facilitate another's learning.”

Carl R. Rogers

“A person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“Am I living in a way which is deeply satisfying to me, and which truly expresses me?”

Carl R. Rogers

“As no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Being empathetic is seeing the world through the eyes of the other, not seeing your world reflected in their eyes.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Evaluation by others is not a guide for me. The judgments of others, while they are to be listened to, and taken into account for what they are, can never be a guide for me. This has been a hard thing to learn.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person's ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming me.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“Growth occurs when individuals confront problems, struggle to master them, and through that struggle develop new aspects of their skills, capacities, views about life.”

Carl R. Rogers

“I don't believe that anyone has ever taught anything to anyone. I question that efficacy of teaching. The only thing that I know is that anyone who wants to learn will learn. And maybe a teacher is a facilitator, a person who puts things down and shows people how exciting and wonderful it is and asks them to eat.”

Carl R. Rogers

“I feel happier just for being myself and letting others be themselves.”

Carl R. Rogers

“I realize that, if I were stable, prudent, and static, I would live in death. Therefore, I accept confusion, uncertainty, fear, and emotional ups and downs. Because that is the price I am willing to pay for a fluid, perplexing, and exciting life.”

Carl R. Rogers

“I regret it when I suppress my feelings too long and they burst forth in ways that are distorted or attacking or hurtful.”

Carl R. Rogers
A Way of Being

“I'm not perfect... But I'm enough.”

Carl R. Rogers

“I’ve always felt I had to do things because they were expected of me, or more important, to make people like me. The hell with it! I think from now on I’m going to just be me—rich or poor, good or bad, rational or irrational, logical or illogical, famous or infamous.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“If I let myself really understand another person, I might be changed by that understanding. And we all fear change. So as I say, it is not an easy thing to permit oneself to understand an individual.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“If we value independence, if we are disturbed by the growing conformity of knowledge, of values, of attitudes, which our present system induces, then we may wish to set up conditions of learning which make for uniqueness, for self-direction, and for self-initiated learning.”

Carl R. Rogers

“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”

Carl R. Rogers

“In my relationships with persons I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act as though I were something that I am not.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens.”

Carl R. Rogers
A Way of Being

“It’s not about getting the feeling out of the mind, or hiding it, but about experiencing it with acceptance.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Life, at its best, is a flowing, changing process in which nothing is fixed.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“Loneliness is a barrier that prevents one from uniting with the inner self.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Man's inability to communicate is a result of his failure to listen effectively.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Neither The Bible, nor the prophets, nor the revelations of God or of men… Nothing has priority over direct experience.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Once an experience is fully in awareness, fully accepted, then it can be coped with effectively, like any other clear reality.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner." I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”

Carl R. Rogers
A Way of Being

“People only seriously consider change when they feel accepted for exactly who they are.”

Carl R. Rogers

“Powerful is our need to be known, really known by ourselves and others, even if only for a moment.”

Carl R. Rogers

“So while I still hate to readjust my thinking, still hate to give up old ways of perceiving and conceptualizing, yet at some deeper level I have, to a considerable degree, come to realize that these painful reorganizations are what is known as learning.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.”

Carl R. Rogers

“The man who is educated is the one who learns to learn.”

Carl R. Rogers

“The only person who cannot be helped is that person who blames others.”

Carl R. Rogers

“The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”

Carl R. Rogers

“The process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-fainthearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one's potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life. Yet the deeply exciting thing about human beings is that when the individual is inwardly free, he chooses as the good life this process of becoming.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“The very essence of the creative is its novelty, and hence we have no standard by which to judge it.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“There is another peculiar satisfaction in really hearing someone: It is like listening to the music of the spheres, because beyond the immediate message of the person, no matter what that might be, there is the universal. Hidden in all of the personal communications which I really hear, there seem to be orderly psychological laws, aspects of the same order we find in the universe as a whole. So there is both the satisfaction of hearing this person and also the satisfaction of feeling one's self in touch with what is universally true.”

Carl R. Rogers

“There is direction but there is no destination.”

Carl R. Rogers

“There is no beast in man; there is only man in man.”

Carl R. Rogers

“True empathy is always free of any evaluative or diagnostic quality. This comes across to the recipient with some surprise. "If I am not being judged, perhaps I am not so evil or abnormal as I have thought.”

Carl R. Rogers

“We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“We in the West seem to have made a fetish out of complete individual self-sufficiency, of not needing help, of being completely private except in a very few selected relationships.”

Carl R. Rogers

“We live by a perceptual "map" which is never reality itself.”

Carl R. Rogers
Client-Centered Therapy

“We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.”

Carl R. Rogers
A Way of Being

“What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.”

Carl R. Rogers

“What is most personal is most universal.”

Carl R. Rogers
On Becoming a Person

“What you are to be, you are now becoming.”

Carl R. Rogers

“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me.”

Carl R. Rogers

“When I look at the world I'm pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.”

Carl R. Rogers

“When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good. When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions which seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.”

Carl R. Rogers

“When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance… provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another.”

Carl R. Rogers

“You can't possibly be afraid of death, really, you can only be afraid of life.”

Carl R. Rogers
Client-Centered Therapy