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The Evolution of Desire Quotes

“Because smooth, clear skin is one of men’s evolved desires, women cover up blemishes, use moisture cream, apply astringents, and get facelifts.”

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“Both sexes place a tremendous value on intelligence and dependability in a lifetime mate. Both seek long-term mates who are cooperative, trustworthy, and loyal. And both desire mates who will not inflict crushing costs on them.

We are all of one species from the same planet. Recognition of our shared psychology and shared biology is one step toward producing harmony between the sexes.”

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“Children strengthen marital bonds, reducing the probability of divorce, by creating a powerful commonality of genetic interest between a man and a woman.”

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“Commitment is difficult and costly to fake, because commitment is gauged from repeated signals over time. Men who are interested only in sex are unlikely to invest this much effort.”

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“Consider the case of a woman who denigrates a rival by casually mentioning that the rival has slept with many men.

If the man is seeking a spouse, this tactic is highly effective, because men dislike promiscuity in a potential wife.

If the man is seeking casual sex, however, the woman’s tactic is likely to backfire, because most men pursuing easy sex are not bothered by a woman’s past promiscuity.”

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“Deception usually occurs in the domains that are most important—status, resources, and commitment for women, appearance and sexual fidelity for men, and personality qualities for both.”

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“Displays of love, commitment, and devotion signal a man is willing to channel his time, energy, and effort to her in the long run.

Men attempt to deceive women by feigning an interest in commitment to achieve a quick sexual score. They also feign confidence, status, kindness, and resources that they lack.

Men try to abscond with the sexual benefit without paying the cost of commitment.”

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“Effective non-verbal seduction tactics for women in Lisbon, Portugal, included wearing tight skirts, wearing low-neck blouses, and exposing legs through short skirts or wearing attention-getting black or red nylons.

Women who sexualize their appearance and behavior succeed in evoking approaches from men.”

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“Exceptions occur when women mate with substantially younger men. Many of these cases occur not because of strong preferences by women for younger men but rather because both older women and younger men lack bargaining power on the mating market.”

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“Features of physical appearance, such as full lips, clear skin, smooth skin, clear eyes, lustrous hair, and good muscle tone, and features of behavior, such as a bouncy, youthful gait, an animated facial expression, and a high energy level.

These physical cues to youth and health, and hence to reproductive capacity, constitute key elements of male standards of female beauty.”

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“For both men and women worldwide, jealousy is an adaptation that becomes activated in response to a threat to a valued relationship.”

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“For every incremental gain in men’s ability to deceive women, women evolve comparable incremental gains in their ability to detect deception.”

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“Fulfilling each other’s evolved desires is one key to harmony between a man and woman.

A woman’s happiness increases when the man brings more economic resources to the union and shows kindness, affection, and commitment. A man’s happiness increases when the woman is more physically attractive than he is, and when she shows kindness, affection, and commitment.

Those who fulfill each other’s desires have happier relationships, especially if there are no interested others in the mating pool who could fulfill them more completely.”

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“Given the importance that men attach to looks and sexual exclusivity in a potential mate, they are especially sensitive to deception about a woman’s age and sexual history. Men are keenly attuned to information about women’s sexual reputations.

Vigilance guards them against deception about two of the most reproductively important considerations for a man seeking a long-term mate — her reproductive value and the likelihood that her value will be channeled exclusively to him.”

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“Given the power of sexual selection, under which each sex competes for access to desirable mates, it would defy scientific logic to find that men and women were psychologically identical in aspects of mating about which they have faced different adaptive challenges for millions of years.”

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“If women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex, then depriving a man of sex may be a reliable way to stop his love and hasten his departure.”

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“In light of men’s emphasis on fidelity in a committed relationship, displays of fidelity should be paramount in women’s tactics of attraction.

Faithfulness displays, such as honesty and trustworthiness, signal that the woman is pursuing a long-term mating strategy and that she is doing so without deception and exclusively with one man.”

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“In short-term affairs, women can be very choosy because they have so many options to choose from.”

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“In the human mating dance, the costs of being deceived about a potential mate's resources and commitment are carried more heavily by women.

An ancestral woman who made a poor choice of a casual mate, allowing herself to be deceived about the man's long-term intentions, risked enduring pregnancy, childbirth, and child care unaided and being less able to attract an alternative mate, since existing children are seen as costs by potential mates on the mating market.”

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“Knowing what we desire in a mate provides no guarantee that we will succeed in getting what we want. Success hinges on providing signals that we will deliver what the partner we desire is seeking.”

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“Men and women do not merely enhance their own attractiveness; they also derogate their rivals. While making themselves appear attractive by exhibiting the qualities sought by the other sex, people also denigrate their rivals by making them appear to lack these desired qualities.”

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“Men are preoccupied with a woman's youth. Men want wives who are pretty, attractive, beautiful, gorgeous, comely, lovely, ravishing, and glamorous.”

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“Men seek attractive women as mates not simply for their reproductive value but also as signals of status to same sex competitors and to other potential mates.”

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“Men value physical attractiveness, and I found that women were most likely to cite enhancing their appearance as one of their primary mate retention tactics — a finding that is replicable across cultures, including Brazil, Croatia, and the United States.

Out of the nineteen clusters evaluated, enhancing their appearance was the second most effective tactic used by women, after love and kindness.”

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“Men's banter, when it does not center on sports or work, often revolves around the appearance and sexual availability of women in their social circles.”

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“Men’s jealousy is especially attuned to rivals who have status and resources; women’s jealousy is especially attuned to rivals who are physically attractive.”

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“Moodiness also functions as an assessment device to test the strength of the bond. Women use moodiness to impose small costs on their mates and then use men’s reactions to the costs as a gauge of their degree of commitment.

If a man is unwilling to tolerate these costs, it is a cue that his commitment is low. Men’s willingness to tolerate the costs and to be responsive to the increasing demands for investment signals a greater level of commitment.

Either way, the woman gains valuable information about the strength of the bond.”

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“More desirable women have more bargaining power and they can elevate their standards. They want higher levels of resources, education, and intelligence; higher social status; good parenting skills; and raft of other traits.

Men with resources are more likely to marry physically attractive women. Most men can get a much more desirable woman if they are willing to commit to a long-term relationship because women typically desire lasting commitment, and highly desirable women are in the best position to get what they want.”

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“Most women are unwilling to settle for men who are less educated, less intelligent, and less professionally successful than they are. Men are less exacting on precisely these dimensions, choosing to prioritize youth and appearance.”

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“No human is without imperfections. Drawing attention to them magnifies their importance, especially if attention is drawn to efforts to conceal or disguise a weak spot.”

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“If you can't convince 'em, confuse 'em.”


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