Ichiro Kishimi Quotes Page 3
Best 89 Quotes by Ichiro Kishimi – Page 3 of 3
The Courage to Be Disliked Quotes
“Wanting to live sincerely is an important thing, but it is not enough on its own. Adler tells us that all problems are interpersonal relationship problems. But if one does not know how to build good interpersonal relationships, one may end up trying to satisfy other people’s expectations.”
“We can live only in the here and now.”
“We cannot alter objective facts. But subjective interpretations can be altered as much as one likes. And we are inhabitants of a subjective world.”
“We choose our lifestyles ourselves. It’s clear where the responsibility lies.”
“We do not lack ability. We just lack courage. It all comes down to courage.”
“What kind of goal is the act of going on a journey? Suppose you are going on a journey to Egypt. Would you try to arrive at the Great Pyramid of Giza as efficiently and quickly as possible, and then head straight back home by the shortest route?
One would not call that a 'journey'. You should be on a journey the moment you step outside your home, and all the moments on the way to your destination should be a journey. Of course, there might be circumstances that prevent you from making it to the pyramid, but that does not mean you didn’t go on a journey. This is 'energeial life'.”
“What other people think when they see your face — that is the task of other people, and is not something you have any control over.”
“When one hears words of gratitude, one knows that one has made a contribution to another person.”
“Whether we praise or rebuke others, the only difference is one of the carrot or the stick, and the background goal is manipulation.”
“Why is it that people seek recognition from others? In many cases, it is due to the influence of reward-and-punishment education.”
“With workaholics, the focus is solely on one specific aspect of life. They probably try to justify that by saying, ‘It’s busy at work, so I don’t have enough time to think about my family.’ But this is a life-lie. They are simply trying to avoid their other responsibilities by using work as an excuse.”
“You are the only one who can change yourself.”
“You read a new book and gain new knowledge. Basically, you keep accumulating knowledge. The more you read, the more your knowledge increases. You find new concepts of value, and it seems to you that they change you.”
“Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.”
“Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.”
The Courage to Be Happy Quotes
“Both religion and philosophy and science have the same starting point. Where do we come from? Where are we now? And how should we live? It is from these questions that religion, philosophy and science are born. In ancient Greece there was no distinction between philosophy and science. The Latin word 'scientia', the origin of the word 'science' in many European languages, simply means 'knowledge'.”
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“Everybody needs a place where they feel protected, secure, and welcome. Everybody yearns for a place where they can relax and be fully themselves.
Ideally, the childhood home was one such place. For those of us who felt accepted and loved by our parents, our home provided this warmth. It was a heartwarming place — the very thing that everybody yearns for.
And we internalize this feeling from childhood — that of being accepted and welcome — as a fundamental, positive attitude toward life that accompanies us through adulthood: we feel secure in the world and in our own life. We’re self-confident and trusting of others.
There’s the notion of basic trust, which is like a home within ourselves, providing us with internal support and protection. Many people, however, associate their childhood with largely negative experiences, some even traumatic.
Others had an unhappy childhood, but have repressed those memories. They can barely recall what happened. Then there are those who believe their childhood was 'normal' or even 'happy', only to discover, upon closer examination, that they have been deluding themselves.
And though people may attempt to repress or, as an adult, downplay childhood experiences of insecurity or rejection, there are moments in everyday life that will reveal how underdeveloped their basic trust remains.
They have self-esteem issues and frequently doubt that they are welcome and that their coworkers, romantic partner, boss, or new friend truly likes them. They don’t really like themselves all that much, they have a range of insecurities, and they often struggle in relationships.
Unable to develop basic trust, they therefore lack a sense of internal support. Instead, they hope that others will provide them with these feelings of security, protection, stability, and home.
They search for home with their partner, their colleagues, in their softball league, or online, only to be disappointed: other people can provide this feeling of home sporadically at best.
Those who lack a home on the inside will never find one on the outside. They can’t tell that they’re caught in a trap.”
“Children are not cruel — it’s just that they don’t know. They do not know what life is worth, or about other people’s pain.”
“Destiny is something you create with your own two hands.”
“Division of labour is the incomparable survival strategy that the human race acquired in order to compensate for its physical inferiority.”
“Don’t be afraid of other people looking at you, don’t pay attention to other people’s judgement and don’t seek recognition from other people. Just choose the path that is best for you and that you believe in. Furthermore, you must not intervene in other people’s tasks, and you must not allow others to intervene in your tasks, either.”
“In every way, violence is a low-cost, easy means of communication. But before deeming it morally unacceptable, we must say that it is a rather immature form of conduct for people to engage in.”
“Instead of seeking approval, one has to approve oneself, with one’s own mind.”
“Place value on the person being that person without pushing your own value system on them. And further, assist in their growth or unfolding. That is precisely what respect is. In the attitude of trying to manipulate or correct another person, there is no respect whatsoever.”
“Respect denotes the ability to see a person as he is; to be aware of his unique individuality.”
“Seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another.”
“The attitude of the need for approval, of trying to get another person to decide one’s worth, is just dependence.”
“The past you speak of is nothing more than a story skilfully compiled by ‘you now’. Please understand this point.”
“There are many adults who treat their own weakness or misfortune, their hurt, troubled background and trauma, as a weapon and plot how they will control other people. They will try to control others by making them worry and by restricting their own words and actions.”
“Viewed from the standpoint of the division of labour, all professions are honourable.”
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“By processing information from the environment through the senses, the nervous system continually evaluates risk. I have coined the term neuroception to describe how neural circuits distinguish whether situations or people are safe, dangerous, or life-threatening.
Because of our heritage as a species, neuroception takes place in primitive parts of the brain, without our conscious awareness.”
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