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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Quotes

“Get the love you deserve and give your partner the love and support he deserves.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Love brings up our unresolved feelings. One day we are feeling loved, and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love.

The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Martians have a win/lose philosophy — I want to win, and I don’t care if you lose. As long as each Martian took care of himself this formula worked fine. It worked for centuries, but now it needed to be changed.

Giving primarily to themselves was no longer as satisfying. Being in love, they wanted the Venusians to win as much as themselves. In most sports today we can see an extension of this Martian competitive code.

For example, in tennis I not only want to win but also try to make my friend lose by making it difficult for him to return my shots. I enjoy winning even though my friend loses. Most of these Martian attitudes have a place in life, but this win/lose attitude becomes harmful in our adult relationships.

If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men go to their caves. Women talk.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Mental chemistry creates interest, emotional chemistry generates affection, physical chemistry generates desire, and spiritual chemistry creates love.

A soulmate includes all four... and I will not settle for anything less!”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

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“No one objects to the idea that certain props like a martini, music, low lights — elements outside the man — can get a woman 'in the mood'; then why should he feel threatened by what is going on in her mind?”


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“Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Quite often, when one partner makes a positive change the other will also change. This predictable coincidence is one of those magical things about life.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Remember, if a man needs to pull away like a rubber band, when he returns he will be back with a lot more love. Then he can listen. This is the best time to initiate conversation.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Sharing your problems with another person on Venus is actually a sign of love and trust, not a burden.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“The biggest challenge for a man is translating a woman’s words if she speaks and supporting her with appropriate understanding and support for the situation and her feelings.

The biggest challenge for a woman is interpreting a man’s silence and supporting him by accepting and supporting him by leaving him the space he needs.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“The differences and disagreements don’t hurt as much as the ways in which we communicate them. Ideally an argument does not have to be hurtful; instead it can simply be an engaging conversation that expresses our differences and disagreements. (Inevitably all couples will have differences and disagree at times.)

But practically speaking most couples start out arguing about one thing and, within five minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing. Unknowingly they begin hurting each other; what could have been an innocent argument, easily resolved with mutual understanding and an acceptance of differences, escalates into a battle.

They refuse to accept or understand the content of their partner’s point of view because of the way they are being approached. Resolving an argument requires extending or stretching our point of view to include and integrate another point of view.

To make this stretch we need to feel appreciated and respected. If our partner’s attitude is unloving, our self-esteem can actually be wounded by taking on their point of view.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“The man does not realize that the little thing in relation to the woman is just as important as the big thing.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“The next time when you are frustrated with the opposite sex, remember that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and even if you don't remember anything from this book, remembering that we are meant to be different will help you be more loving.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“The number one way a man can succeed in fulfilling a woman's primary love needs is through communication.

By learning to listen to a woman's feelings, a man can effectively shower a woman with caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Their motto on Venus is 'Love is never to ask'. She assumes that if her partner loves her, he will offer his support and she won't have to ask.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty, and relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another.

Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“We are unique individuals with unique experiences.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

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“The critical dimension in understanding whether a marriage will work or not, becomes the extent to which the male can accept the influence of the woman he loves and become socialized in emotional communication.”


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