Louann Brizendine Quotes
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Best 29 Quotes by Louann Brizendine
“A woman uses about 20,000 words per day while a man uses about 7,000.”
“Gratitude is the heart of friendship.”
The Female Brain Quotes
“During times of physical separation, when touching and caressing is impossible, a deep, longing, almost a hunger, for the beloved can set in.
We are used to thinking of this longing as only psychological, but it's actually physical. The brain is virtually in a drug-withdrawal state.
During a separation, motivation for reunion can reach a fever pitch in the brain. Activities such as caressing, kissing, gazing, hugging, and org*sm can replenish the chemical bond of love and trust in the brain.
The oxytocin-dopamine rush once again suppresses anxiety and skepticism and reinforces the love circuits in the brain. From an experiment we also know that oxytocin is naturally released in the brain after a twenty-second hug from a partner – sealing the bond between huggers and triggering the brain's trust circuits.”
“Female sexual turn on begins, ironically, with a brain turn off. The impulses can rush to the pleasure centers and trigger org*sm only if the amygdala – the fear and anxiety center of the brain – has been deactivated.
The fact that a woman requires this extra neurological step may account for why it takes her on average three to ten times longer than the typical man to reach org*sm.”
“If you’re a girl, you’ve been programmed to make sure you keep social harmony. This is a matter of life and death to the brain, even if it’s not so important in the twenty-first century.
We could see this in the behavior of three-and-a-half-year-old twin girls. Every morning the sisters climbed on each other’s dressers to get to the clothes hanging in their closets. One girl had a pink two-piece outfit, and the other had a green two-piece outfit.
Their mother giggled every time she’d see them switch the tops—pink pants with a green top and green pants with a pink top. The twins did it without a fight. “Can I borrow your pink top? I’ll give it back later, and you can have my green top” was how the dialogue went.
This would not be a likely scenario if one of the twins were a boy. A brother would have grabbed the shirt he wanted, and the sister would have tried to reason with him, though she would have ended up in tears because his language skills simply wouldn’t have been as advanced as hers.”
“Male love circuits get an extra kick when stress levels are high. After an intense physical challenge, for instance, males will bond quickly and sexually with the first willing female they lay eyes on.
Women, by contrast, will rebuff advances or expressions of affection and desire when under stress. The reason may be that the stress hormone cortisol blocks oxytocin's action in the female brain, abruptly shutting off a woman's desire for sex and physical touch.”
“Maternal stress during pregnancy has effects on the emotional and stress hormone reactions, particularly in female offspring. These effects were measured in goat kids.
The stressed female kids ended up startling more easily and being less calm and more anxious than the male kids after birth. Furthermore, female kids who were stressed in utero showed a great deal more emotional distress than female kids who weren’t.
So if you’re a girl about to enter the womb, plan to be born to an unstressed mom who has a calm, loving partner and family to support her. And if you are a mom-to-be carrying a female fetus, take it easy so that your daughter will be able to relax.”
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“The 'nervous system environment' a girl absorbs during her first two years becomes a view of reality that will affect her for the rest of her life.”
“The changes that happen in the mommy brain are the most profound and permanent of a woman’s life. For as long as her child is living under her roof, her GPS system of brain circuits will be dedicated to tracking that beloved child.
Long after the grown baby leaves the nest, the tracking device continues to work. Perhaps this is why so many mothers experience intense grief and panic when they lose day-to-day contact with the person their brain tells them is an extension of their own reality.”
“The more you do something, the more cells the brain assigns to that task,”
“Whether or not she is being listened to will tell a young girl if others take her seriously, which in turn goes to the growth of her sense of a successful self. Even though her language skills aren’t developed, she understands more than she expresses, and she knows — before you do — if your mind has wandered for an instant.
She can tell if the adult understands her. If the adult gets on the same wavelength, it actually creates her sense of self as being successful or important. If she doesn’t connect, her sense is of an unsuccessful self.
Charles in particular was surprised by how much focus it took to keep up the relationship with his daughter. But he saw that, when he listened attentively, she began to develop more confidence.”
“Women have less direct relationship to anger. When a woman 'bites' her tongue to avoid expressing anger, it's not at all socialization. A lot of it is brain circuitry. Even if a woman wanted to express her anger right away, often her brain circuits would attempt to hijack this response, to reflect on it first out of fear and anticipation of retaliation.
Also, the female brain has a tremendous aversion to conflict, which is set up by fear of angering the other person and losing the relationship. Instead of triggering a quick action response in the brain, as it does in males, anger in girls and women moves through the brain's gut feeling, conflict-pain anticipation, and verbal circuits.
Scientists speculate that though a woman is slower to act out of anger, once her faster verbal circuits get going, they can cause her to unleash a barrage of angry words that a man cant match. Typical men speak fewer words and have less verbal fluency than women, so they may be handicapped in angry exchanges with women.
Often when I see a couple who are not communicating well, the problem I see is that the man's brain's circuits push him frequently and quickly to an angry, aggressive reaction, and the woman feels frightened and shuts down.”
The Male Brain Quotes
“A boy’s public relationship with his p*nis is something that has made many mothers wince, including me.”
“A man’s best chance for longevity is to sleep deeply, stay strong, avoid tobacco, and get married and stay married.”
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“Boys discover their place in the world by pushing all of their body’s physical limits, so it’s not just fighting but also being able to fart or burp the loudest or the longest that gives a boy bragging rights.”
“Boys tease and reject other boys who like girls’ games and toys.”
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“If a man's wives are compelled to confine their sexual qualities to their husband for the whole of their lives, the society is likely to preserve its conquests as well as its culture.
But if it relaxes its sexual regulations further, it collapses.”
“By adulthood, most men and women have learned to behave in a gender-appropriate manner.”
“By the time a boy is just three and a half, the greatest insult is being called a girl.”
“By the time they’re six months old, baby girls are looking at faces longer and making eye contact with just about everyone. But baby boys are looking away from faces and breaking eye contact much more than girls.
There’s nothing wrong with David. His brain just doesn’t find eyes and faces as interesting as toy airplanes and other moving objects.”
“He picks me flowers, tells me he loves me, and showers me with kisses and hugs. But when he gets the urge to do something, the rules we’ve taught him vanish from his mind.”
“Many fathers who don’t have daily hands-on contact may fail to form the strong daddy brain circuits required for parent-child synchrony. The environment for eventually establishing such a close interaction may start before birth.
During the last months of my pregnancy, my son’s father would play a tapping game with him. His dad would tap tap tap on my belly, and he’d tap tap tap back — kicking seemingly with the same rhythm. The father-son relationship had begun.”
“Much to the scientists’ surprise, the men, after seeing an emotional face for just one fifth of a second — so briefly that it was still unconscious — were more emotionally reactive than the women.
But it’s what happened to the men’s facial muscles next that helped me explain Neil’s guy face to Danielle. As the experiment proceeded, at 2.5 seconds, well into the range of conscious processing, the men’s facial muscles became less emotionally responsive than the women’s.
The researchers concluded that the men consciously — or at least semiconsciously — suppressed showing their emotions on their faces. Meanwhile, the women’s facial muscles became more emotionally responsive after 2.5 seconds.
According to the researchers, this suggests that men have trained themselves, perhaps since childhood, to automatically turn off or disguise facial emotions. The females’ expressions not only continued to mirror the emotion they were seeing on the face in the photo, but they automatically exaggerated it, from a grin to a big smile or from a subtle frown to a pout. They, too, had been practicing this since childhood.”
“Researchers found that by the age of twenty-seven months, boys more often than girls will go behind their parents’ backs to take risks and break rules.”
“Researchers have found that by the time a boy is seven months old, he can tell by his mother’s face when she’s angry or afraid.
But by the time he’s twelve months old, he’s built up an immunity to her expressions and can easily ignore them. For girls, the opposite happens.”
“The five-to-one rule: giving each other five compliments for every one critical remark.”
“The idea that the male is the default-model human still deeply pervades our culture. The male is considered simple; the female, complex.”
“To a young male brain, the victory cry is everything.”
“When brain areas aren’t used enough, they atrophy. Isolation is bad for the brain.”
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“When men live alone and become isolated — which they do more often than women — their daily routines can become repetitive habits that get deeply engraved into their brain circuits.
Soon, if someone disrupts their routine, they get irritated because their brain’s social-flexibility circuits are weakened from disuse.”
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“If taking on a wife for life in an institution called marriage were a sign of male privilege, why did 'husband' derive from the Germanic 'house' and the Old Norse for 'bound' or 'bondage'?
Why did it also come from words meaning 'a male kept for breeding', 'one who tills the soil', and 'the male of the pair of lower animals'.
Conversely, if marriage were as awful for women as many feminists claim, why is it the centerpiece of female fantasies in myths and legends of the past, or romance novels and soap operas of the present? Spartan boys who were deprived of their families were deprived, not privileged. Boys deprived of women’s love until they risked their lives at work or war were also deprived — or dead.
Training boys to kill boys was considered moral when it led to survival, immoral only when it threatened survival. In these respects, 'patriarchy' created male deprivation and male death, not male privilege.”
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