Neil Strauss Quotes

“3 tips for avoiding resentment in a relationship:

1. Communicate your truth (with appropriate boundaries).

2. Don’t try to change your partner – accept them as they are or leave.

3. Don’t agree to do or not do something that isn’t true to you just to please your partner.”

“A healed person does not shame another for not doing the work. That’s what narcissists do.

Those who weaponize healing traumatize.”

“A healthy relationship isn’t: I’ve seen this person at their best, and I’m waiting for them to be like that again.

It’s: I see who this person is, and accept them even at their worst.

And if their worst gets worse, and you can no longer accept it, you get to leave. When you try to make your partner change to meet your needs, you become the parent that traumatized them in the first place.”

“A technological revolution won’t change human nature. We need a human nature revolution to change technology.”

“I realize that there’s more than one way to skin a cat, but I’d rather not know any of them.”

“I’m against people who are against people.”

“I’ve never met a perpetrator who didn’t think they were the victim.”

“If you find yourself in disagreement, opposition, or worried about what the younger generation is doing or advocating, then the younger generation is doing its job – and you are doing a good job strengthening their resolve.”

“Kindness is loaning someone your strength instead of reminding them of their weakness.”

“Listen, all adults can do is yell at you and ground you, so do what you want.

- My 7 year old’s advice to another kid”

“Most of the time,
it’s worth the time
to plan your time
to get more time
to do what you love”

“You can be out of touch with reality for only so long until reality gets in touch with you.”

“You can tell that a trauma is at work when whatever you are trying to avoid is the exact outcome you continually create.”

“You make yourself happy. You also make yourself mad.

You get to choose your emotions. You also get to make your boundaries with others who don't support your mission of becoming best self.”

“Your partner hasn’t changed. They’ve just gotten more comfortable showing you who they are.”