Nick Pollard Quotes

“Exercise #1.

Spend the next week saying no to everything.

By the end of the week, nothing will change, except for your boundaries.”

“The fastest way to start hating yourself is to try making everyone else happy.”

“Things I learned taking 30 days off social media:

1. There are actual withdrawals when you go cold turkey.

2. Absurd amount of free time to read and workout and grow my business.

3. It's like a bad friend that you really like.
Boundaries are important.

4. Some of y'all need me to put my foot up your ass. Buckle up because I won't be less displeasing this time.

5. These apps can be used to grow, but mostly they are a distraction. Figure out how much is too much”

“Desire isn't selfish. It's honest.

Hinting and hoping is how you end up in another therapist's office wondering why your needs aren't getting met.

Healthy people ask for what they want.”

“Do I choose to be a victim or do I choose to thrive?”

“First I had to understand that every single thing that's ever happened to me and will ever happen to me is my responsibility.”

“If it doesn't show up in your behavior, it's not growth.”

“If kicking your own *ss was going to work, it would have already.

Ask yourself: Would I let anyone talk to my children like I talk to myself?”

“If they wanted to, they would.”

“If you stop treating yourself like sh*t, you'll stop tolerating people that treat you like sh*t.”

“It’s time to have a real conversation about how the world views good men.”

“Keeping the peace ≠ being at peace.

Constantly managing everyone else's comfort is emotional babysitting at best and meddling at worst.

Let people handle their own sh*t, you have plenty.”

“Learning to be disliked is the fastest pathway to knowing and loving who you are.”

“No excuses. No guilt. Just "NO".

Because if your 'no' still sounds like a polite hostage negotiation... it's not a boundary.”

“Not all of your boundaries require brute force.

As you practice, your responses should eventually be equal to the violations.”

“Pain is guaranteed. Purpose is optional.

You're going to bleed either way - the choice is what you bleed for.”

“Shrink for no one. Shrinking doesn't make you safe – just invisible.”

“Sorry is not a personality trait. Unless you've caused harm or broken trust, you don't owe anyone a sorry. Save if for when it counts.”

“Stop trying to be like people who want a completely different life than you.”

“The number one cause of all trauma is people.

And that really sucks because the number one predictor of happiness is connection to other people.”

“The only people judging you are the ones going nowhere.

If they don't have anything you want, their opinion doen't matter.”

“To stop 'People Pleasing' does not mean
you start being a 'Jerk'.

It means learning to be selfish for a bit and setting boundaries. Then creating balance while you find your voice and learn to like and then love your own life.

It's about allowing your needs to be as important as everyone else’s.”

“What you don't change, you choose.”

“You don't test your growth in a safe space.

You test it when your ex texts you at 2am and you don't spiral into self-loathing and doubt.

Practice being enough and you and you will be enough.”

“You're not failing, you're learning.”

“You’re not witholding your emotions because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

You’re doing it to avoid potential abandonment and to cover your own ass. You want to be in control.”