Ross Jeffries Quotes

“A 'nice' man only knows how to be agreeable. He doesn't know how to challenge women and he can't or won't set the lead. And he filters everything he says through the belief that women are fragile little flowers who need to handled with oh so much care lest they be broken. Yuck!

One more thing: women don't trust his communication because he just won't dare say anything that might offend them. Now a pleasant man is something quite different: pleasant is power, held in proper restraint and exercised with precision and elegance.

A pleasant man will speak his mind, set the lead, but he also knows how to listen and show the proper degree of interest and respect. He may put himself first, but he also genuinely cares for and cares about his woman (or women). They are of great importance to him as long as they treat him right and work within the rules that he has made very clear.

Most important: his world is his own. He never, never makes the woman his world, around which he orbits. He does allow her to come into his world and occasionally even be at the center with him.”

“Beautiful women create an altered state, the combination of internal dialogue, imagery, physiology, flows of sensation, beliefs and attitudes, attributing meaning.

Will you go into an altered state that is useful for you?”

“I absolutely teach training routinality, but more important I teach beliefs. Training your energy, training your vibe...”

“I don't like bars. They're too noisy, and I don't like loud environments.”

“I get along with women under 30 a lot better. They're so much more fun and vivid.”

“I got two girls into bed up until 1987, that means I was uh... I was born in 1958, you do the math.

I was nearly thirty years old. Two girls! Terrible. Really terrible.”

“I make no apology for my desires as a man.”

“If you are going to build an auto-pilot, why not build an auto-pilot that flies the plan instead of crashes into the ground.”

“If you listen to what a woman says, she'll give you all the information you need to seduce her.”

“Learning and skills are state dependent and your state can be designed controlled and created by you.”

“Leave her better than you found her.”

“Love, fascination, desire, lust are not 'things' but processes that take place in the human, mind, brain, physiology and neurology.”

“My favorite pattern has to do with how I show up. What you do with your body, what you do with your beliefs, what you visualize in your mind, what you're doing with your energy and vibe.

So, 50 percent of this has to do with how you show up. Remember, patterns aren't just language. So my favorite pattern is how I show up.”

“No matter how bad things are for you, I've been there and over 22 years, tens of thousands of students of mine have been there too.

You are not alone in your struggle, you're not alone with your sticking points, there are answers too if you're interested.

It'll be my mission and my honor and privilege to help you with this.”

“Number 1: control your state. Learn to build in a confidence that doesn't rely on being accepted or rejected.”

“Number 2: learn to look differently at how women create their world.

Women's emotions, like love, desire, connection, attraction, are not things. They're processes that women do inside of their body.

If you learn to look at processes and activity instead of things, you will be able to see these things in her and be able to link them to yourself.”

“Number 3: of course, learn to use your language to capture and lead a woman's emotions and open up those parts of her mind that are useful for seduction.

And to shut down those parts that are not useful.”

“Originally I was looking for ways to solve my own problems, I was not attractive to women, I was afraid of women and had a lot of issues with approach anxiety.

When I stumbled upon NLP I read a book by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and I immediately understood that I could use this to solve my own problems.”

“Successfully attracting and seducing women is about how you can capture and lead their imaginations and emotions.”

“The best way to learn is immersion. You know when you take a bath and you get your whole body into the water, not just the tip of your toe? That's it.

Immerse yourself into it. Take my courses. Don't just listen or read 'em once, listen to them nonstop.”

“The difference between losers and winners is that losers don't fail enough.”

“The kind of questions you ask yourself control how you think. Therefore it is crucial to learn to ask new, better, different and empowering questions than the ones you have been asking and the ones you have been taught to ask.”

“The metaphor I use is fishing. You don't bait the hook with the kind of food you like to eat, you bait it with what the fish are going to bite on.”

“The substitute for fear is not confidence. It's compassion for yourself and others.”

“Train yourself to be strong and commanding, fun and spontaneous. Train yourself to show a deep understanding to the women's world and then finally train yourself when to show them your world.

Cause sometimes women want to feel that they understand you better than any other women in the world. So sometimes you have to reveal something from your inner world. Not all the time of course, but once in a while.

I think one of the keys to women is emotional variety. Knowing when to be strong and commanding, when to be fun and so on.”

“What I would do is walk up, I like to do a little pre-opener, I'd say anything.

First of all I would make a comment on the actual situation that is really funny. It all depends on the situation.

A pre-opener can be anything. If she's alone I could say: I'm wondering what you're doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it's not working on me.

And then when she laughs, "You know, I'm glad you laughed, it shows you have a sense of humor."

It shows you have a sense of humor before you introduce yourself.

Now let's go through that opener. I walk up and I say "I'm wondering what you're doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it's not working on me."

Now that's a really funny way to pace her reality, cause the reality is there is no guys in there.

I'm saying it in a funny way, so I'm getting rapport by pacing her reality, I'm showing her that I'm funny.

And then there's the next part I do. This part is really crucial to make this work.

When I say "I'm glad you laughed, it shows you have a sense of humor", what is that doing?

It's showing that I'm screening for something more than her looks, and that humor is important to me. I'm showing that I have standards.

All of that is accomplished in the space of a minute. Women likes different vibes, and if you can show in the space of a minute that you have all the vibes, you're halfway home.”

“When I don't know what to do, I take a bold step forward.”

“When most men meet a beautiful woman, they're so wrapped up in their own feelings that they neglect what the woman is feeling.

If you want to be successful with women, focus on their state, not yours.”

“Women don't really want a guy with a great body, a handsome face or lots of money.

What women want is the emotional states they experience when they are around a guy with a great body, a handsome face, etc.”

“Women likes games, women are conditioned to respond to games. The format or subject isn't important, if it's a quiz or game.

So I could start with a game or a question. Now that question is designed to open up her imagination.”