Shad Helmstetter Quotes

“A lot of people have lived richer lives because someone who cared took the time to listen.”

“All too often, the words we have said to ourselves when things went wrong contributed to the problem – instead of making it better or helping us solve it.”

“As long as you and I allow others to program us in a way that fits their choosing, we are, without a doubt, out of control, captive to the whims of some unknown destiny, not quite recognizing that what hangs in the balance is the fulfillment of our own futures.”

“Belief does not require something to be true. It only requires us to believe that it’s true! That’s powerful stuff! That means most of what reality is, to each of us, is based on what we have come to believe – whether it’s true or not!”

“Choosing to live your life by your own choice is the greatest freedom you will ever have.”

“How about being your own motivator? How about taking charge and putting yourself back in control? You can, just by learning that all true motivation – the only kind that lasts, the only kind you can count on – is internal motivation.”

“How we 'feel' – tired or energetic, listless or enthusiastic – is mental and chemical; it is physiological.”

“I am in control of myself in every way—at all times and in all situations. Each time I sit down to eat, I reaffirm my determination to achieve my goal.”

“I can do anything I believe I can do! I’ve got it, and every day I get more of it. I have talent, skills, and ability. I set goals and I reach them. I know what I want out of life. I go after it and I get it.”

“I do not agree with those who tell us that all problems are "opportunities." Some problems represent potential opportunities, but not all of them. If a man with a gun in his hand were to walk in at this moment and point the gun at your head, that is not an opportunity – that is a problem!”

“I never blame anyone else for the circumstances of my life. I accept my failings and move past them as easily as I accept the rewards for my victories.”

“I never demand perfection of myself, but I expect the very best of what I have to give—and that’s what I get! I never give myself excuses. I get things done on time and in the right way.”

“If everything you tell yourself about yourself becomes a directive to your subconscious mind, then anytime you make a statement about yourself that is negative you are directing your subconscious mind to make you become the person you just described – negatively!”

“It is your programming that has created your choices in the past. It is the choices you make today that are creating the programs of your future.”

“Leading behavioral researchers have told us that as much as seventy-seven percent of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us. At the same time, medical researchers have said that as much as seventy-five percent of all illnesses are self-induced. It’s no wonder.”

“Learning to manage, control, and direct the resources of your mind is the greatest challenge you will ever face.”

“Mastering one’s future must surely start with managing one’s 'self'. And if we could accomplish that, we could manage and master at least a part of what we call 'life'.”

“Some people choose to live by complaining. Other people choose to live.”

“The human brain will do anything possible you tell it to do, if you tell it often enough and strongly enough!”

“There may be a thousand little choices in a day. All of them count.”

“We are most comfortable with the thoughts we have lived with the most. It makes no difference if those thoughts aren’t the best for us – it’s what we know, it’s what we are most secure in keeping at our side.”

“We are trying to force the brain to do something that it has not been programmed to do. The brain simply believes what you tell it the most. And what you tell it about you it will create. It has no choice.”

“We can change friends, spouses, jobs, or locations, and we still take the same inner selves along with us – the same internal identities which made us unhappy, helped us, or got us into trouble in the first place. If we take the old images of ourselves with us wherever we go and into what ever we do, how could we expect to do better the next time we try?”

“What we become a part of becomes a part of us.”

“Whatever you put into your mind – in one way or another – is what you will get back out – in one way or another.”

“You are everything that is, your thoughts, your life, your dreams come true. You are everything you choose to be. You are as unlimited as the endless universe.”

“You can be a graduate student of management and never attain the essential skills of managing others if you do not first master the management of yourself… The second essential ingredient of being a good manager is knowing how to develop the qualities and skills of others.”

“You may think that in life, a lot of things happen to you along the way. The truth is, in life, you happen to a lot of things along the way.”

“Your subconscious mind is an incredibly powerful, goal-achieving mechanism. Programmed strongly enough, it will do anything necessary to help you achieve your goals. Unless you tell it what to do, it doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong.”

“Deep inside the workings of the human brain, there is no actual ‘truth.’ The part of the brain that stores all of the messages you have received, accepts what it is told most often. It then plays back to you the strongest messages it has received. And it plays those messages back to you as ‘truth’ or ‘fact’, whether the messages are actually true or not.”

“Don’t pass along your negative Self-Talk to someone else. After all, that’s how you got it in the first place!”

“It is also because the brain stores – and wires in – repeated messages, that you end up believing things about you that you tell yourself most often. The complete ‘you’ that you believe you are today, is the combined result of years of messages, both from the world around you and, most importantly, from your own self-talk.”

“The first was that I would never again give in to negative programming, of any kind, in my own life, if I could help it in any way. The second decision I made in this area was that I would research the concept of self-talk and programming, and explore the science behind the concept.”

“The following few questions will tell you if Negative Self-Talk Disorder may be a problem in your own life:
Do you often think negative thoughts?
Do you feel ‘down’ or depressed for no apparent reason?
Do you have trouble focusing on your goals and accomplishing the things you want to accomplish?
Do you argue more than you should?
Do you often feel that life is working against you?
Do you feel you are not in control of your future?
Do you put off or procrastinate doing the things you need to do?
Do you often see the worst first and the best last?
Do you talk about yourself in any way that puts you down or makes you think less of yourself?
Do you find that you are self-critical, and often critical of others?
Is a noticeable amount of your self-talk each day made up of negative thoughts?
Do you have trouble seeing the world, and life in general, as bright and as positive as you would like it to be?
Do you find that you have stopped believing in your dreams, and have started to believe that those dreams are no longer true for you?”

“The key to failure is the repetition of a belief in failure. Negative self-talk is the repetition of a belief in failure.”

“The most important chemical process necessary to wiring or rewiring your brain is repetition. The brain is designed to pay attention to, and store, the messages that are repeated most often.”

“The most important chemical process necessary to wiring or rewiring your brain is repetition. The brain is designed to pay attention to, and store, the messages that are repeated most often.”

“The problem is that Negative Self-Talk Disorder is an unconsciously acquired disorder that becomes physically, chemically, wired into your brain. If you do nothing to change it, it not only stays, it also gets progressively worse. It becomes a part of your programs, and follows the rules under which your brain operates.”

“What you believe about anything is not a measure of its correctness. What you believe about anything is a measure of the programs you have that support your belief.”

“An integral part of developing healthy self-esteem are the values that are part of positive self-esteem itself – values such as taking personal responsibility for yourself, showing genuine compassion for others, making good choices, exercising self-discipline, using manners, being mindful, and having balance in all things.”

“�It is a fact of the makeup of the human mind that you become most how you describe yourself most. You live up to, or down to, the image you create of yourself in your mind. And what creates this picture of yourself that you carry in your mind? The number one source for the beliefs you carry about you is your self-talk.”

“It has been estimated that, in the average individual, 77% or more of their unconscious programs are negative and may be working against them.”

“It’s been my experience that many people who suffer low self-esteem allow it to go on because they believe there is nothing they can do about it; that’s just life, and they believe they have to accept what life sends them.”

“If enough of your programs are negative, your self-talk will also be negative. This is because your present self-talk is the result of the programs you already have that are the strongest. The rule is: Negative programs equal negative self-talk.”

“Most of our stress is the result of mental programs that tell us what we cannot overcome.”

“People who have trained their brains to think in the positive, actually wire more neural networks into the left prefrontal cortex of their brain.”

“The person who receives better, healthier, more positive programs will, over time, virtually always do better than the person who receives unhealthy, negative programs.”

“The right self-talk wires your brain to focus on finding solutions, taking action, creating more self-confidence, and giving you more peace of mind – exactly the mental states that help you get rid of stress.”

“Together, those inaccurate messages, through lifelong repetition, have created every negative belief you have about yourself today. Your self-doubts, your imagined inadequacies, most of your fears, and everything you believe incorrectly about who you are today, are the result of the repetition of inaccurate messages to your brain.”

“The greatest stories about people, and what they achieved in their lives, are the stories of those people who chose to dream, and then went on to make their dreams come to life. Not surprisingly, there are no success stories written about people who have no dreams.”

“The world is made up of those who take control of their choices—and those who don’t. Those who succeed use this tool every day they live, from the moment they find it. What an incredible gift this tool is! You get to make the choices that can change your life.”

“Because of the way your brain will unconsciously duplicate neural activity of the person you’re with, anyone you spend your time with can imprint your brain with their programs. And neither of you will know it is.”

“Your conscious intention to do something increases your brain’s ability to wire in new ideas!”

“Any motivation that comes to you from an outside source, no matter how exciting or powerful that motivation may feel at the moment, cannot be stored by your brain.”

“�Remember, the subconscious mind will believe anything you tell it if you tell it long enough and strongly enough.”

“�Your feelings about anything you do will affect how you do it. It doesn’t have to be feelings of like or dislike, joy or fear; all of your feelings affect your actions.”

“For any personal growth concept to be successful, it has to be simple. It has to be easy to use. It has to be easy to put into practice. And it has to work.”

“From this day on, you can, if you choose, change a little to gain a lot.”

“Give life to your dreams, give strength to your visions, and give light to your path.”

“How often do you suppose you were told what you can do or what you can accomplish in life?”

“How successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied directly to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your subconscious mind.”

“How we react to those things in life which we can do nothing about will always be the truest test of our own self-control, our own individual sense of self, and our ability to manage our minds and ourselves in a way that keeps us coming out on top and at peace with where we are. That is a part of maturity.”

“How you feel about your job, your mate, your family, your money, your health, your self, and your success, will determine how you behave in each of these areas. If your feelings are positive and productive, your actions will follow.”

“If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?”

“If you tell yourself that you do not like your job – you probably won’t.
If you tell yourself that you are unhappy with your manager or employer, you probably will be…
Give yourself an advantage. Talk to yourself about your work and the people you work with in a way which makes your work work for you – and it will. You can decide to be happy with yourself and your job or you can decide to go home every night complaining about the things you don’t like.”

“If you want to manage yourself in a better way, and change your results, you can do so at any time you choose. Start with the first step. Change your programming.”

“In logical progression, what we believe determines our attitudes, affects our feelings, directs our behaviour, and determines our success or failure:

1. Programming creates beliefs.
2. Beliefs create attitudes.
3. Attitudes create feelings.
4. Feelings determine actions.
5. Actions create results.”

“Instead of waking up in the morning and telling yourself you wish you didn’t have to get out of bed, your new self-talk should tell you that it’s a great day to be alive—and it’s time to get at it.”

“It is no longer a success theory; it is a simple but powerful fact. Neither luck nor desire has the slightest thing to do with it. It makes no difference whether we believe it or not. The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.”

“No one will ever breathe one breath for us. No one will ever think one thought that is ours. No one will ever stand in our bodies, experience what happens to us, feel our fears, dream our dreams, or cry our tears. We are born, live, and leave this life entirely on our own. That 'self', and the divine spirit which drives it, are what we have. No one else can ever live a single moment of our lives for us. That we must do for ourselves. That is responsibility.”

“Of the many ways you can use Self-Talk in its various forms, you will find that all Self-Talk suggestions or phrases fit into one of four categories: Habit-Changing, Attitude-Building, Motivational, or Situational Self-Talk.”

“Our experiences, our acceptance of what we heard from others and what we told ourselves, became the foundation for the mental programming which directs us today.”

“Personal responsibility is the essence of self. I, for one, would rather not give that up. Why would we ever want someone else to do our thinking for us?”

“Repetition is a convincing argument.”

“Self-Management is the difference between living a life of fulfillment and purpose, and living out our years frustrated and incomplete, contained by the shortsighted limitations of our own disbelief. Self-Management is the final conquest.”

“Self-Talk is a way to override our past negative programming by erasing or replacing it with conscious, positive new directions.”

“Self-Talk is the key to making all positive thinking work. Without it, for most of us, positive thinking becomes “wishful thinking.” And wishful thinking is nothing more than saying to yourself, “I wish I could… but I can’t.” And “I can’t” is Level I Self-Talk – the kind that works against us.”

“Since most of those things we call problems are really only perceived as problems, the way you look at each of them determines whether they really are or not; you need only tell yourself to see them in a better way.”

“Success, ultimately, is up to the individual. It isn’t the pen—it’s the writer; it isn’t the road—it’s the runner that counts.”

“The day each of us was born, we were given that energy – minute bits of electrochemical energy which feed small but important messages to our minds. One day, when the energy jar is empty, those thoughts, combined together, will have created in our lives the sum total of every worthwhile thing we have done.”

“The easiest way to determine which of the people around you are the real winners at life and which are not, is to listen to their self-speak – what they say when they talk about anything.
Winners use self-speak to build an attitude that produces winning results. It doesn’t mean that winners don’t have problems. It doesn’t mean that every day for them is a perfect day. But look at their average scores in winning at life, over a few months or a few years. The better their self-speak, the better their score. The more positive their approach, the more successful the results. In time, positive self-speak becomes as much an automatic habit as walking, moving, eating, or sleeping. And when positive self-speak becomes a habit, so do the successes which the self-speak creates.”

“The more you think about yourself in a certain way, the more you will think about yourself in that same certain way!”

“Using Self-Talk to deal with loneliness or depression is one of its best uses and one of the easiest to put into practice. Because Self-Talk deals with you and what you think, it deals directly with the root of the problem.”

“Wanting to be a positive thinker isn’t enough. Making the decision to have a positive attitude isn’t enough. The human brain says: “Give me more. Give me the words. Give me the directions, the commands, the picture, the schedule, and the results you want. Then I will do it for you. Give me the words.”

“We are too busy fixing the train to realize that we are on the wrong track.”

“We are too busy staying alive to figure out how to live.”

“We control with our own minds most everything in our lives, including our health, our careers, our relationships, and our futures.”

“We have been trying to achieve our goals with our own onboard computer pre-programmed to hold us back!”

“What if you could now change that old mental programming? What if you could rewire your brain?”

“You can erase the old negative, counterproductive, work-against-you programming and replace it with a healthy, new, positive, productive kind of programming. And it’s easy. Erase and replace. All you have to do is learn how to talk to yourself.”

“You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming – what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.”

“Your success will always depend on what you think, what you tell yourself most. Expect the best and then tell yourself the best. If you do, there is a good chance that that is what you will get.”