Shannon L. Alder Quotes

“A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out.”

“A coward talks to everyone but you.”

“Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.”

“Beauty is not who you are on the outside, it is the wisdom and time you gave away to save another struggling soul like you.”

“Being different is a revolving door in your life where secure people enter and insecure exit.”

“Betrayal is an ironic thing. He or she betrays you then you betray yourself. You think you’re showing strength with your anger, but in reality you’re showing how much you still care.”

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.”

“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.”

“Cruel people offer pity when they no longer feel threatened. However, kind people offer compassion and understanding regardless.”

“Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.”

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”

“Feelings are something you have; not something you are.”

“I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. They reach the summit last because they know God isn’t at the top waiting for them. He is down below helping his followers to understand that the view is glorious where ever you stand.”

“I have always found it odd that people who think passive aggressively ignoring a person is making a point to them. The only point it makes to anyone is your inability to articulate your point of view because deep down you know you can’t win. It’s better to assert yourself and tell the person you are moving on without them and why, rather than leave a lasting impression of cowardness on your part in a person’s mind by avoiding them.”

“If a man, who says he loves you, won’t tell you the details of a private conversation between him and another woman you can be sure he is not protecting your heart. He is protecting himself and the women he has feelings for. Wise women simply see things as they are, not as their low self-esteem allows.”

“If you have feelings for someone, let them know. It doesn’t matter if they can be in your life or not. Maybe, it is just enough for both of you to release the truth, so healing can occur. The opposite is true, as well. If you don’t have feelings for someone then never let another person suggest that you do. Protect your reputation and be responsible for the wrong information spread about you. Never allow anyone to live with a false belief or unfounded hope about you. An honorable person sets the record straight, so that person can move on with their life.”

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”

“If you're going to love someone or something then don't be a slow leaking faucet – be a hurricane.”

“Insanity is everyone expecting you not to fall apart when you find out everything you believed in was a lie.”

“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.”

“Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone.”

“Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”

“Love is proved the moment you let go of someone because they need you to.”

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask: What else could this mean?”

“Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When 'I' is replaced by 'We', illness becomes wellness.”

“Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn’t see your worth at the moment you met then he won’t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.”

“Often people that criticise your life are usually the same people that don't know the price you paid to get where you are today. True friends see the full picture of your soul.”

“Often those that criticize others reveal what he himself lacks.”

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.”

“One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.”