Susi Ferrarello Quotes

“Give yourself what you fantasize receiving from your obsession.”

“Having feelings for someone we don’t know very well can border on an insane obsession we cultivate for that person and unhealthy projections we attribute to them.”

“If you start obsessing about someone, this person is the least of your problems.

It is very likely in fact that this person does not even feel cared for by you.”

“In fact, the person you may be obsessing about is often a stranger, a long distant friend, a coworker; someone you met only a few times.

It is someone you do not know well.”

“In general, obsession is quite an unhealthy state of mind.

It becomes even more dangerous when obsession gets confused with romantic feelings somewhat resembling love.”

“Keeping you busy is the hidden agenda of any obsession.

Obsessions are there to displace your attention and care about what truly matters.”

“Obsession is a distraction; a very dangerous and consuming one. It keeps us from a true intimate connection with ourselves.”

“Obsession is a state of mind that tries to tell us something important about ourselves to improve the quality of our lives.”

“Obsessions are tough. They are little tornadoes that we invite into our life because mourning would be too painful and making a change too unsafe.”

“Obsessions are very tricky. In fact, they indicate that there is something so painful and sad at the bottom of your chest that you have decided to disconnect from it.”

“Often, the difference between obsession and healthy loving feelings is marked out by a natural spontaneous and anxiety free growth.

When prey to obsessions, you are getting close to the person you feel obsessed about with a ton of anxiety, double guessing, and looping thoughts.”

“The fact that you do not know this person very well allows the obsession to thrive.

Thanks to the lack of reality checks, your mind will run wild in projections on the life of this person.

You will build possible scenarios about your next encounter with them. Any action or reaction from that person will make your heart beat as never before.

You are alive but under siege. You are alive because you are under siege.”

“The word ‘obsession’ comes from the Latin ob-sidere, which means to be occupied and almost invaded by something that does not belong to you.”

“With a deeper introspection, you might even realize that you do not care that much about their life or inner world; what you want is their spotlight on you.

You want this person to see you, to get to know you, to get interested in your life. You look forward to making this person part of your life.

In fact, this person whose company you are craving, is you.”

“I can refer to my body in plenty of ways. I can consider my body to be a machine that brings me wherever I want.

I can look at it as a burden that prevents me from doing what I really want to do. It can be my business card through which others can like me.”

“In the long run, disembodied thoughts generate a disembodied being which is a big problem for us because a disembodied being does not have a body that can help to put in practice the projects or ideas that come to mind.”

“Our living body is in fact our bodily compass — or as phenomenological philosophy calls it, our center of orientation — that tells us at each given moment what matters here and now.”

“Our living body is there to remind us what we are in that moment and what we can do in that moment with what we are. Our living body is our center of being.”

“The body is a wonderful source of meaning. It does not matter if it is young or old, ill or healthy.

At any time of our life it tells us what it is in the world that it is worthwhile to explore. It tells us what we can do with what we have.

Closing the door to all these meanings is an immense loss that we do not want to call upon ourselves.”

“We are embodied when we are aware of this wide array of possibilities that our living and biological body offer us to fully live our life.

The joy of being alive comes exactly from this deep awareness: We can be. This awareness is one of the apex moments of feeling embodied.”

“Feeling something is often considered better than feeling nothing.

Yet it is quite difficult, if not impossible, for many traumatized people to allow themselves to do so.”

“No one can fit everywhere. Finding the right fit at work, among friends, or in our private life is a stroke of good luck.”

“Try not to take rejection personally but as an opportunity to try new avenues that have not yet been explored.”

“Wait for actual rejection, not just the feeling of rejection.”